Been casually seeing someone. Let's call him P. It's just a bit of fun and probably isn't going anywhere.
P had asked if I wanted to get together this Saturday night, but in a subsequent conversation was being non committal about whether it would go ahead. He "might" be around. He isn't sure. He'll let me know on Saturday night itself. He needs to see how tired he is after football and he has some family stuff he'd have to do first, so he wasn't sure if there would be time. This is fairly typical behaviour from him.
Literally during that conversation with P, a nice guy that I've known a while, happened to message and ask me if I was free at the Saturday night.
P saw me pick my phone up and (jokingly) asked who it was.
I decided to be honest.
I told P who it was and that he'd asked me out, and that as P couldn't commit to Saturday night, I was going to go on the other date. I showed him the message so he knew I wasn't just trying to make a point.
It wasn't an ultimatum for P. I'd already accepted the date before I told him who it was.
It was an act of self care to ensure I didn't spend my Saturday waiting around on a "maybe" and instead spent it with someone who was excited to spend time with me.
On reflection though, I feel like I was a bit immature to tell him and came across as defiant.
There's no real dilemma here as it's already done. I'm just curious to know if people think it was the right move or the wrong one, as I'm cringing a bit about it!