I do not know where to start. Me and my husband married for 7 years and have 3 DC. I had a feeling since the beginning that my in-laws did not like me however they never showed that up. Unfortunately right after wedding I lost my mother for liver cirrhosis after battling for 2 years who I was taking care off, I am only child and then after my mum passed I was taking care of my grieving and ailing dad who suffered severe Parkinson's and passed away last year. Now I taking care of my dad's mother who has been abandoned by her other son and daughter.
I managed all my pregnancies alone without any family support. I am a doctorate and I work full time. I contribute equal to the household. Me and my husband work hard, save hard and we managed to build two properties. We have heavy mortgages to pay but we both work hard to pay that and also take care of three kids without any care compromise for them.
In our country parents arranging a wedding is still a practice and my husbands elder brother did the same. His wife and children are with her(my sils) parents and her parents are completely supporting their family (taking care of household works by mum, child care by dad) while by bil stays and works alone without any family responsibilities in the America.
My in-laws somehow feels so sorry for my husband that he chose to marry me. In their opinion he is suffering because he married me. Reasons they quote whenever they speak to him in phone is that, your brother's life is sorted, he has a great in laws support, we do not need to worry about him at all.l, however you do not have anyone to support, you are suffering. We advised you a lot not to marry this girl,.you did not.listen. Now you are suffering and also us.
Not once but many times.he mentioned this and sometimes my husband stood up for me, at times he would.ignore them..
I long for a family love, I long for someone to talk to me, no one calls me on my phone as a family. I do not have anyone except my in laws. Recently my fil fell ill and I tried giving them a lot of advise and offered help and support to them however my mil and bil who are talking care of my fil ghosts me out, they get annoyed if I talk, or if my relatives call them.
Since I had experience on taking care of elderly parents, I suggested that I can appoint a carer who can help them. That carer we know her very well as she took care of my dad. This morning that carer has called them just to check on my fil condition. My bil got annoyed of this and he called my husband and shouted at him for letting her know about fil's condition and he said there is no need of any advice or support.
I felt really bad and do not know how to react. I still love my fil and I really want him to get better. It pains and hurts that they do not like me