I am struggling with the fact that my ex-partner only shows up for the fun activities with our children, while I am left to handle the entire parenting and daily grind of responsibilities. We are talking a week every few months, if that, that he shows up. Literally he rents a holiday home and has loads of fun and then disappears off again.
I feel so much frustration as my ex never has to so much as do a load of washing or any of the domestic drudgery that comes with young children.
He uses my childcare and labour to work long hours and accumulate his huge savings. Meanwhile I feel trapped with my limited work opportunities trying to juggle the home, all the childcare responsibilities and working. I do not have a single hour to myself without work or children for months at a time until he shows up again. I honestly feel at breaking point.
If I voice my frustration I get dismissed as if I am
not even a human. I’m just here to raise the children.
i keep fantasising about leaving and making him step up. But I could never do that to my children and I realise it’s futile as he would no doubt pass the responsibility on to his mother anyway.
Ex thinks because he pays his child maintenance anything additional in terms of childcare is him doing me a favour. Not helped that his childless girlfriend for some insane reason thinks he is some kind of amazing father. Still baffled by this as she already knows he cheats, lies and chooses to go on holiday over time with his children.
Has anyone else experienced a similar situation? How did you cope with the resentment?? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.