What would you do in this situation? Another child hurt my child and it’s been made out to be my child’s fault

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What would you do in this situation??

My little boy is almost 3 and we were at his gymnastics class today and he went to use the roller mat and a little girl smacked him in the face and she wanted to keep going on it. She was with her grandma who hasn’t brought her before and she said nothing to me but very quietly told the little girl not to do that.

About 5 minutes later my little boy went to play in the tunnel that she was playing with and the grandma asked him to take turns and put it back and then grabbed his arm and moved him away from it for no reason and said nothing to me again!! The little girl then smacked him in the face repeatedly (about 4 times) and pulled his hair hard. He was crying (which is very unusual for him so it must have hurt) and they left the class.

I’ve just had a call from the teacher saying that I need to tell him to use kind hands ect. more as he has a high pain tolerance and doesn’t understand that hitting hurts (yes, he does have a high pain tolerance but he has never attacked anyone and he did literally nothing to the little girl today!!!) as the grandma was upset and has told her a different story apparently different people saw different things!?

What on earth? If my child had hurt someone I wouldn’t lie about it. We go to classes 3 times a week and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do but they clearly don’t believe me…

Surely you told the group leader that not only did the other child hit yours, on two occasions, and yours did not retaliate at all. But on top of that the adult with the other child grabbed your child and physically moved him when he was doing nothing wrong - and if anyone needs speaking to about kind hands it's not only the other child but her bloody grandmother too!

Wow. Just tell the truth. Say I'm sorry but I saw the other girl hit my son repeatedly until he cried and I also saw his grandmother grab my child to berate him. I'm extremely unhappy with this conduct, obviously (of both child & adult) and I am especially unhappy now that my child has been unfairly blamed. Its important to me to clear this up with you so you understand. Thanks.

What would i do in this situation. First off i wouldnt be in this situation because:

1. ANY adult that put their hands on my child, i would have intervened at that particular point.
2. As soon as my child was hit and seeing that Grandma had told her off, i would have made sure that i then simply moved to a different area in gymnastics. They are only 3 and they probably just needed to be separated.

Just to add here, were you watching your child? I say this not to be critical but that's a lot of things to happen without you intervening.

From a different perspective, my son is severely autistic and on one occasion I was with my son and this boy kept following him around, taking his things etc. My son can't tolerate this and lashes out. The parents were nowhere to be seen, so it was left to me to try and remove this kid from my son's space so the child didn't get injured.
I hover around my child because I know what he's like but this happens so much tbh - people not watching their kids but then preach high and mighty when something happens they don't like.

Not saying this is the case here, but it seems there is more to this than being said.