Am i making a big deal out of this

[kinderbueno2024]

Hi I'm wondering if I'm BU here. Last week I did the food shop, bought treats and snacks that my family like but also bought myself a small bar of chocolate you know the small ones that are under 100 calories as a treat as I'm trying to loose weight.
When I went to get it that evening it was gone, my husband denied eating it so I assumed it was one of the kids. The next day he turns around and tells me he ate the bar but didn't want to tell me as he knew I'd be peeved and didn't want an argument over it.
Yesterday I did the food shop and as I'm on the road today I picked up a prepared salad and a fruit pots. The fruit pot was gone this morning and my husband told me he used it in the kids lunches despite there been other fruit he could have used. I'm then told it's not a big deal and I can just pick up another one on the road. Aibu here or does it just show pure lack of respect here?

Communication is key. 'Hey DH, you know I'm on a specific diet. So I'm going to have a tupperware box in the fridge with my name on. These are specific and put into a calorie allowance for me. I would appreciate it please if you didn't dip into it. I'd there's anything specific you would like when I'm doing the shopping, let me know and I will get it too.'

That's all you need to do

depends on your partner.

Not living on my own means I can be in my pjs and ask or text someone to please pop to the shop and bring my xyz and I don't have to leave the house 😂

When I pop in the shop on my way home, I ask if I need to grab something for him to. It's really not painful.

As above, label or reserve a shelf in the fridge where nothing must be touched by anyone before asking (for pack lunch and so on).

It's not the food eaten the problem, who cares, it's not offering to go and buy you another one. That's what normal people would do, it's rude not to.

If there's one of something then I would assume someone had bought it for them. If it's a pack then it's to share.

Stash your treats near the washing machine or other household appliances and he'll never find them.

we have snack boxes with names on and the top shelf is where we put “our” food I have left side DH has right side
Fancy salads, specific cheese or meat.

basically if it’s not fair game it goes there.

no need to chat and everyone is clear

I think he is being disrespectful as he clearly knows the treat is yours

Don't make a big deal about it, but most definitely eat the next treat HE buys for HIMSELF

The only way he'll 'get it' is to have it done to him. Also his passive aggressive "I was too scared to tell you"....what the flip? 🤣

Hes an idiot!