Me. Me. Me. Petulant Attitude.

[tmommy22]

Okay,

AIBU, my partner isn't the father to my son but is to my daughter. My son had a hideous month at school, in May, just really unsettled and poor behaviour. He's dyslexic and possibly the poor behaviour was triggered by the stress of Year 7 baseline exams. Not that I'm making excuses! It was unacceptable and I did a lot of work with him about his behaviour.

Fast forward to June - he's excelled, got his no negative logs AT ALL. All positives. I'm super proud of how he turned it around.

So, my partner... I was telling him about this and said on Saturday I wanna treat my son, 1.2.1, so we are going to go gokarting and have some food. My partner's response ^"If you don’t want to see me then I will stay away. That’s fine"

I'm seething! How dare he make this all about him. AIBU, should I have invited him? Am I being selfish?

No, you shouldn't have invited him, he's being a baby and having a tantrum. How unattractive. Do you live together?

Yes and No - we sold our house and therefore moved in with two separate family members, for 4 weeks, with our new house to be completed in 2 weeks time.

I feel like since we have lived apart (only 2 weeks, I know) his attitude is rather shit and I'm questioning him a lot more. I think when we lived together, life was constantly so hectic, my travel to work was a lot, I possibly didn't realise a lot of things!

Surely he will be looking after your daughter? Not moping about and "keeping away" Good grief.

Not unreasonable, he's acting like a child. Go enjoy the time with your son. And leave your man child at home to sulk.

You're noticing more because a bit of space lets you look at things more clearly.

Maybe I’m making a big leap here but what’s his relationship like with your son? From his response I feel like he might not be the most supportive step father?

You go and have fun. Leave grumpy at home.

Meh, it's okay but isn't perfect. My son is the mini teenage age, where he engages very little with him. In fairness, it isn't from a lack of my partner trying.

Without making this about me, he has two sons, and he'd never involve me in a birthday party of there's or a holy communion of there's, if the boys maternal family are anywhere in sight.