Utterly exhausted

[BeHazelFox]

OK I'll probably be knocked down a peg, and I should step away from the Internet. But I'm 51, divorced. 4 children all vaginal births 1 good, 3 very awkward. I'm menopausal work full time in retail. Get shouted at on a daily basis. When I joined mumsnet I was seeking advice on recipes, budgeting or how to position my baby's sling. Noted I got really good advice about leaving my abusive ex. I just feel mumsnet is not the place it was. Maybe a sign of the times and change I am getting old.

Why on earth does it matter what type of birth you had?

Bit of an odd post. Are you ok OP?
Mumsnet has changed a bit, but most things do.
There’s still a lot of support and care here though. Good advice too.

What's with the type of birth?

Are you looking for advice or support on something just now OP?

I'm not sure what four vaginal births have to do with anything

Not sure what your point is here, or why you being exhausted or having bad births years ago has anything to do with mumsnet being bad now? Or have I just missed your point?

Are you having issues at work OP? Is it there you are being shouted at? That is not okay.

What TF does your vagina and its tribulations have to do with MN?

A classic example of MN being immediately hostile. Perhaps OP has suffered long-term issues from the three births she notes and it's a contributing factor.

I’d be exhausted in your place as well (I feel I am as it is). I hope you are able to have a peaceful break coming up.

Not hostile, just very confused.

We'll have to disagree that 'what the fuck does your vagina have to do with MN?' isn't hostile.

I was referring to my own answer.

Thank you. I knew I would get some negative responses, that's fine.

You are probably (pre-)menopausal and stressed out by a very unsatisfactory job. Having to bring up 4 children on your own can't be easy.

There is so much more information about the menopause nowadays. Read up about what may happen, commit to healthy eating and exercising, and consider HRT.

Can you change jobs?

Any other issues that, if resolved, might lead to a calmer life for you?

Not sure what the point of the post is op

I'm just trying to point out that mumsnet was a place of solice but not so much now

HRT if you're not on it, bloods for iron, B12, thyroid. If you are on hrt it might need to be changed.

You might be also carrying a lot of emotional baggage from the sounds of things, and that's very tiring.

I haven't been on MN much in the past couple of years and I agree people are harsher. Places like style and beauty were always just chatty, though people would give their opinion, but I've noticed the comments there now. A few years ago they'd be told this is S&B not AIBU. Sometimes someone pulls them up. Relationships is a bit wobbly too. People used to be blunt but sometimes I think people are nasty there now. They usually get pulled up on it though, I have to say that.

I think it's variable but there are still supportive people out there and some lovely threads- see this one:
www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5107553-i-have-a-very-clever-4-year-old?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

I think it is, still.

But your OP is quite confusing.

Do you think the problem is your job rather than Mumsnet, being shouted at every day is bad for you.

Anyway, stick around please. The more the merrier 💝

I think this sounds like you’re really struggling OP. I’m not sure how the issues you raise really relate to what MN is like but the fact you connect them suggests you might need some support in rl.

❤

OP, do you feel that people are generally nastier IRL and online?

What have/can you try to change things up?
Talk to GP.
Get kids to do chores.
Try to find some me time even if it's a half hour in the bath.
Exercise.....helps exhaustion/meno symptoms.
New job
Look at what you do at home and see if it's all necessary......I've not ironed in years. Make a mince/spag bol/chilli mix splitting and adding different spices before freezing so 3 dinners cooked in 1 session.