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27 replies

ThisOchreLemur · 30/06/2024 18:07

I did report an email received from ex partner to the police. Has been a week and I did not receive my statement or an update about the investigation. I did emailed the police officer two times but they did not answer. I know police is very busy with more serious crimes but since receiving this email I do worry about my safety and I do not want to see my ex partner.
What can I do?
Thank you

Here is the email: "Dear ThisOchreLemur,

As a Mother I completely respect you. As an individual, I consider you dangerous.

One day, Karma was WILL catch up with you. One day the metaphorical ’silver bullet’ that you use WILL find you.

This, you will never escape. Good luck.

Regards,
ThisOchreLemur ex partner. "

OP posts:
Frogmarch89 · 30/06/2024 18:10

I'm not sure threatening Karma or metaphorical bullets is a crime tbh.

TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 18:11

Frogmarch89 · 30/06/2024 18:10

I'm not sure threatening Karma or metaphorical bullets is a crime tbh.

It's the level of threat that is worrying, not the content.

IncompleteSenten · 30/06/2024 18:13

Well that's a nasty email, no wonder you're upset.
Why do they consider you dangerous?

OneShyLimeBird · 30/06/2024 18:14

To be honest I’d see that email as a bit of creative writing and fear mongering. If he was planning to do something to you, he would have kept quiet or now the evidence will point to him.

Frogmarch89 · 30/06/2024 18:14

TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 18:11

It's the level of threat that is worrying, not the content.

It doesn't feel too threatening to me however we all have different levels of tolerance.

Obviously we have no context either, if the ex partner is abusive then that is more threatening than a normally reasonable person sending an out of character email.

TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 18:14

Is the email from a man, OP?

Scousefab · 30/06/2024 18:15

Usually they log it and then if there is more threatening behaviour they will start taking action. With police they are so busy you have to case build if he is sending you multiple messages it is harassment.

Cantbebotheredwithausername · 30/06/2024 18:16

The police can't do much without actual evidence of an intention to hurt you, OP. Your ex may be unpleasant, but the email just says that he finds you dangerous and that karma will get you with a metaphorical silver bullet - there are no actual threats of any kind. I doubt the police can do much of anything really, as those statements are unpleasant but hardly criminally so. I am sorry for your emotionally draining situation, though. You feelings and wish to not see him again are valid, even if there are no crimes involved.

ThisOchreLemur · 30/06/2024 18:17

Frogmarch89 · 30/06/2024 18:14

It doesn't feel too threatening to me however we all have different levels of tolerance.

Obviously we have no context either, if the ex partner is abusive then that is more threatening than a normally reasonable person sending an out of character email.

Yes he is and very controlling.

OP posts:
ThisOchreLemur · 30/06/2024 18:18

TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 18:14

Is the email from a man, OP?

yes, why?

OP posts:
Createausername1970 · 30/06/2024 18:18

I certainly wouldn't like to receive an email like this, and it would definitely unnerve me.

BUT I don't read it as threatening you. I read it more as a statement that you will get the come-uppance due to you (according to the sender) but there is no undertone that the sender is actually going to do anything.

Frogmarch89 · 30/06/2024 18:18

ThisOchreLemur · 30/06/2024 18:17

Yes he is and very controlling.

Then I think you need to start recording everything and saving all emails and communications to build a case against him.

It sounds difficult I'm sorry you're going through this.

ThisOchreLemur · 30/06/2024 18:18

Cantbebotheredwithausername · 30/06/2024 18:16

The police can't do much without actual evidence of an intention to hurt you, OP. Your ex may be unpleasant, but the email just says that he finds you dangerous and that karma will get you with a metaphorical silver bullet - there are no actual threats of any kind. I doubt the police can do much of anything really, as those statements are unpleasant but hardly criminally so. I am sorry for your emotionally draining situation, though. You feelings and wish to not see him again are valid, even if there are no crimes involved.

I know he used "karma" and "metaphorically" but he means a real bullet.

OP posts:
TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 18:20

ThisOchreLemur · 30/06/2024 18:18

yes, why?

I only asked because it wasn't clear.

Is there a long history of abuse?

ThisOchreLemur · 30/06/2024 18:21

TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 18:20

I only asked because it wasn't clear.

Is there a long history of abuse?

yes

OP posts:
TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 18:21

ThisOchreLemur · 30/06/2024 18:18

I know he used "karma" and "metaphorically" but he means a real bullet.

You need to keep records of every interaction.

TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 18:22

ThisOchreLemur · 30/06/2024 18:21

yes

Documented?

ThisOchreLemur · 30/06/2024 18:31

TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 18:22

Documented?

not by police as I never reported until now but from it's documented from social services.

OP posts:
TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 18:32

ThisOchreLemur · 30/06/2024 18:31

not by police as I never reported until now but from it's documented from social services.

Are you safe wherever you are now?

Cantbebotheredwithausername · 30/06/2024 18:34

If there is a history of abuse and the email is part of a larger history, I think you need to give the police a full account of your experience. Preferably with as much documentation as you have, but at least your own account. Either in writing or ask to meet at the police station and give a verbal account. The email also reads as a metaphorical silver bullet, so if you know that your ex has access to actual weapons or the like, you need to explain this to the police, if you haven't already. Then they might start filing statements for a larger case if the problems continue.

KeirSpoutsTwaddle · 30/06/2024 18:36

Does he have a documented history of violence to others? That email from someone running with a crime gang is more worrying than from your average angry drunk, for example.

TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 19:48

OP is it worth asking for a Clare's Law on this man?

lundland · 30/06/2024 21:03

Frogmarch89 · 30/06/2024 18:10

I'm not sure threatening Karma or metaphorical bullets is a crime tbh.

In my force in this context it would be considered so as a threat to OP.

TheShellBeach · 30/06/2024 21:11

lundland · 30/06/2024 21:03

In my force in this context it would be considered so as a threat to OP.

Yes indeed.

Frogmarch89 · 30/06/2024 21:15

lundland · 30/06/2024 21:03

In my force in this context it would be considered so as a threat to OP.

To be fair I posted that before OP had given any context and have replied since.