Strained relationship with in laws since baby was born

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How common is this?

Always had a good relationship with my in laws before our first child was born.

Since our child has been born things have progressively got worse and worse. Entitlement, boundary pushing, jealousy, lack of support and empathy, arguments, disrespect

I'm distraught that we've ended up like this but I have so much anger towards how me and my husband have been treated.

Anyone with similar stories?

Yeah I think it's pretty common. I always got along well with my in-laws but once our baby was born (their first and likely only grandchild) i realised what neglectful parents they were to my husband and his siblings. They obviously dislike children so I have no idea why they bothered having any. My husband is the most wonderful person but only because of all the other people who actually brought him up. Before I realised this I stupidly expected some kind of support or a level of interest from them but they barely see our son, they know next to nothing about him, if we try to tell them anything about him it's clear they aren't listening. Our son is disabled and we make it clear when we do see them how run down we are and how hard it can be at times and they don't so any kind of sympathy or offer any kind of help. Their relationship with our son is superficial, all for show and he barely knows who they are. I will never except childcare from them even if they offered because they wouldn't know what to do with him, how to care for him or how to deal with his disability