Is it unreasonable to be concerned about childminders own child?

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I just keep thinking if my 1 year old is crying and needs a cuddle and her 1 year old is crying and needs a cuddle, who is she going to cuddle? My son often wants to be held, what if hers is the same? How do they work this?

What about if you had two small children close in age? Twins? A similar thing, I guess.

Childminders care for more than one children all the time. They know how the handle this situation

Id imagine your son will need to get used to not being the only child . A childminder will potentially have 5/6 kids but not all very young. Not many 1 year old can be held all day

Childminders care for several children of various ages. All the children need attention regardless of age. Your child will need to learn to share if you want to leave your baby in this situation.

I expect she would give them both a cuddle. I’m sure she’s experienced enough to know how to balance the needs of more than one child. Just like you would if you had more than one child.

As a childminder who often had little children the same age as my own 4 I can categorically tell you there are plenty of ways to cuddle more than one child at a time. No one went without love care and attention. In fact my own kids who are now 6, 9, 12 and 17 often moan on days we are not working.. (mot the 17 year old though!)

realistically unless you employ a nanny then there will be times the care giver will be busy with another child. But they will be used to this and how to best balance the needs of the children they are looking after.

I'd worry they'd favour their own child too. It's human nature to do so.

I was a childminder I found it so rewarding. When I started I had two dc one was under five. My ratios were

Under one -
1 child
Under five
3 children
Under eight
6 children

But I couldn't have more than six children at any given time.

It was amazing, it taught my kids to be good sharers,turn takers, accept losing. We did loads of days out and the time I was with the kids was 100% attention, not trying to wash up or do admin just playing and having fun. I never had to worry about child care.

I never did favourites but tbh my girls were pretty easy going so never had fall outs etc. But I think if anything I were stricter with them than the minded kids.

I handed my notice in on a six year old boy because he was sat on a cushion, my dd accidentally stepped on the end of the cushion and he pinned against the wall by her throat. ( there were other issues and yes followed safeguarding)

I handed notice in on a baby that couldn't settle . It wasn't fair on him.

But my youngest met her best friend at my childminding, she's in her twenties now and they are still best friends

Sorry posted too soon! I would not have been able to have the quality time I had with my kids without it. I cherished it and they still have many good memories

I'm a cm and honestly please don't worry. Both children will get cuddles. Unless one is hurt and needs first aid or similar, then its perfectly possible to comfort two children at once. There will be times when both children will have to wait such as if she's preparing food or changing a nappy but this is the same as all mums with multiple children. I can multi task better than most!

No definitely not, if fact they got less of a look in...
The mindees came first, my two last... 😕