To have cut our dinner short?

[Lagoonaa]

On Friday, friend randomly asked to meet for dinner. She met me after work and I drove.

Background is that she has a toxic relationship where he cheats and she lets him come back, I’ve been there through the tears, tried to give her advice, she’s stayed over countless times. It’s been years and it’s draining.

Of course she starts having an argument with her boyfriend on the phone whilst we’re sat at the table after ordering. She then asks us to move tables so she can charge her phone. If she’s not texting him, she’s calling him.

I eat food in silence, I’m embarrassed for myself and that everyone around us is clearly hearing this too. I called the waiter over, asked to pay for my food and cancel the dessert. Then I got up and walked out, friend does come running straight out and apologised.

But I feel done. This happens so often. It’s so selfish, because she willingly takes him back and it just repeats. Am o horrible?

Good for you, that’s so rude of her.

Absolutely YANBU. She is incredibly rude and her relationship is an immature shit show which, as she has repeatedly rekindled it, is nobody’s problem but her own.

You've given support till your blue in the face.
You did the right thing her dramas are not your concern and when they continue to spoil what should be nice time for you...it's time to call quits on this friendship.

I think I would have given her an ultimatum before walking out. I would have told her she needs to put her phone away and turn it off or you're leaving. It would then be up to her to make the decision of what was important.

You were not unreasonable at all @Lagoonaa you have reached the end of your tolerance everyone has a limit and yours has been reached.

Maybe, although I doubt it, it will be a bit of a wake up call for your friend.

Good for you! I’d probably not want to meet up with her again.

I would have done the same.

There is only so much friends can take I mean she basically just wanted company whilst she argued with her boyfriend , bugger that she needs to treat you better, you did nothing wrong.

Finally, someone who is not a doormat. Well done!

Why? The OP isn't her mother

I left at the point she was still ranting on the phone, and thought I need to act now in time to cancel any desserts being made and/or brought out.

I am cheering for you OP.

Good for you. they both sound exhausting and dramatic they probably thrive on it.

She was beyond rude. It is all about her clearly!

I had a friend like this and it's so draining. I eventually had to tell her I was tired of picking up the pieces every time he broke her heart and I no longer wanted to hear about him or their relationship.

Our friendship didn't survive it sadly.

You weren't wrong to walk out, she was incredibly rude.

Well done.

No you are not horrible your friend was very rude and it sounds like she loves the drama.

You've done the hard part, don't get sucked back in.

Blimey, well done. Don’t blame you.

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Many people mistake toxicity for passion. There's no need for you to be an audience that that nonsense.

Good for you walking out.

Well done @Lagoonaa

If you wish to continue being friends with her then you should make it clear to her that whilst you are her friend and are there for her, she can’t keep coming to you and using you as an emotional crutch every time he continues to treat her like shit. It’s not fair on you. If she willingly stays with him then that’s on her.

Some friends just drain you. I think you did the best thing in walking away.

I am full of admiration. You did exactly the right thing.

Well
Done! Let's hope it Gives her the kick up the arse she needs!

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I’d block her number as well.