Man With A Plan

[Gowlett]

DH has just left the house, for a birthday party other side of the city. Two bus rides away (on a Sunday) in an area he’s never been to before. It’s midday, the party starts at 1pm in a Kids Fun type of place. He’s just come back in for raincoats…

I’ve had DS (4) ready for the last hour, had his bath, in his coat. Bag packed with spare clothes, snacks (this wouldn’t occur to DH). There’s been tea drinking, reading, playing etc… I haven’t said anything! He doesn’t even know which bus.

Are you married to Baldrick?

billyt, wish he did have a cunning plan, ha ha…

Surely for the sake of your children you would've said something?

I get how annoying this is but you appear to be prioritising enjoying watching your husband fail over your children' s enjoyment of a party.

Seems mean-spirited to me.

Leave him to it. Don’t allow his “acquired uselessness” mean that you have to organise everything. There will be plenty more parties in the years to come

I’ve done everything I can for my child, Hateam. Got him up, gave him breakfast, put him in the bath, dressed him, packed his bag, sent DH the bus timetable etc… If course I’m thinking of my DS. I had said he would be ready to go at 11am. Then, DH just faffed about for an hour. And I’m BU…

My partner is like this. He has ADHD and is always late for everything. It drives me mad. I have to pick my battles and a birthday party normally isn't that high on the list.

Your child's been sat in his coat for an hour?

I’m all for letting men suffer the consequences of their (in)actions. I do this with my DH and it does make him more organised. But I have never and would never do this where my DD would suffer the consequences of DH’s actions. So YABVU.

He was ready to go at 11am. The OP told her husband the child was ready to go at 11am. The husband and child needed to leave at 11am. Why wouldn't the child be ready in a coat at 11am?

The better question is why didn't the husband leave with child at 11am, surely?

His coat was on as I thought they were ready to leave. Aside from bringing him myself, what else can I do? It’s his mate’s DD birthday. It’s their day out together, I hope they have fun! But, if DH won’t plan or organise (DS would still be in PJs if I wasn’t here)…

What on earth is going on at the moment? I feel like we are going backwards.

This is the second thread in a row I've read where a woman is told that she should fall over herself to do all the work for a useless man child!
It literally says in the OP
I’ve had DS (4) ready for the last hour, had his bath, in his coat. Bag packed with spare clothes, snacks (this wouldn’t occur to DH).
Honestly, what more was she supposed to do?

Have we been invaded by Stepford wives or can people just not read anymore?

They got there 😅 Thank you, RightOnTheEdge. Well said!

It's almost July.

I'm just wondering why he sat wearing his coat for an hour.

I wasn't wondering why he had to wait an hour, as the OP has explained that.

It's pretty cold in Cumbria.

Fair enough.

I couldn't sit indoors wearing a coat for an hour in December

But obviously we're all different. I was just curious.

Exactly.

Yet another inept husband and father. You have to wonder how they ever manage to procreate successfully.

But he got them there on time!

She’s the kids mum, not this grown up twat. Let him cope with the fall out.

Why is he a twat ?

What will the fallout be for arriving on time?

The party started at 1 pm, he was there for 1pm
Is MN some sort of alternative reality?

The OP was concerned his plan to get there for 1pm would go wrong. It didn't. He got there on time; his plan worked.

So she wasn't mean-spirited after all.

She said nothing, left it to him and as expected; he is indeed a competent adult.

Win win!

DS is having a great time, that’s the main thing!

Because his wife did all the work getting the child ready!

It's not really tha difficult.