To wonder if it’s normal in families of two children for each child to gravitate to a particular parent?

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Really garbled thread title sorry …

DH and I have two little children, and one is still a baby and very attached to me although loves her dad too. We also have a preschooler who adores spending time with dad and they do lots of things together. As a result, when we’re all together our eldest child feels very much like ‘DHs child’ while the baby is ‘mine.’

I have been worrying a bit about it, probably unnecessarily. But I am not sure how healthy it is to have such a split down the middle. Especially as it feels a bit ‘boys vs girls’ although that’s not the intention .

Has anyone got something similar in their home?

I remember as a kid my elder sister always sat with my Dad whilst I was with my Mum etc etc. Just stems from the youngest needing Mum more I guess.

It was very much the case in my family, in our case, into adulthood too. I'm not the youngest though so nothing to do with that.

I think it's inevitable when one is a baby. Don't panic yet 😉 my two are primary age now and gravitate towards the parent who they think will best serve their interests at that point in time!

My youngest is very much DH’s child whilst the two older ones are mine.

Yes, I think this is totally normal. I have never known a family where this wasn't the case.

Yes, DS usually sits with me and DD with DH. DS is the older one and I'm his loving mummy with more tolerance for his teenage ways than DH.