to not give money to the NSPCC?

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Have a look at this story - www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-12449643

Holy sh*t! "One in four people in the UK, aged between 18 and 24, claims to have experienced severe violence, sexual abuse or neglect as a child, says the children's charity the NSPCC."

Then you read the article and find out that the study which was about rape, attempted rape and physical abuse "also included 'serious emotional neglect or lack of physical care or supervision', which it defined as including 'parents never or hardly ever asking their child who they were going out with or where or what they were doing'.

Whenever they make an ad they like to use pictures of distressed children, use quotes of abuse and put their logo. Not many numbers to go off of. That is why I don't give money to the NSPCC, they use this "data" which I have no-one idea how or where they got it from to further their own cause.

Any thoughts?

They also give money to sex offender programmes. When I found this out I stopped my direct debit to them.

I’d never give to them mainly because I’m not sure what they actually do. If I had a concern about a child I’d contact social services or the police who are in a position to do something about it, not some charity using adverts with sad looking children and manipulative language to give the impression they can help.

During my first pregnancy I received a baby name booklet in the post from the NSPCC. They must have got my mailing address from one of the many freebies I signed up for so it was targeted at me bring pregnant.

It had an A to Z if baby names, but their each name would detail a child with yhay name that had been abused or died,. And what the abuse was.

It was horrible, and to target a pregnant woman, they had no idea how my pregnancy was.going, could be a.libged for baby, my bay could have been diagnosed with a disability, there is chance I could still miscarry. Was absolutely awful with no thought to the mother's to be situation. I actually complained as was so upsetting.

So I will never give them money again. They made me feel feel guilty for having that pregnancy bloom and wonder.

We have some fabulous local charities to support families and victims of abuse amd would.rather help and donate to them.

I do find this sort of survey very frustrating. There are kids who suffer absolutely appalling abuse and we should be able the distinguish this from 'parents were a bit rubbish' otherwise it becomes meaningless.

I only give money now to smaller charities. I think Oxfam, the RSPCA , the National Trust and the NSPCC have lost sight of their remit, pay their people too much and waste too much on admin and PR.

They do too much virtue-signalling and not enough charity-ing for my taste.

I think Oxfam, the RSPCA , the National Trust and the NSPCC have lost sight of their remit

I stopped all contributions to the RSPCA after they rang me and asked me to up my donation. I told them I couldn't afford it and he said to me "do you have pets?" I said yes, I have dogs, and he said "thats fine, I guess you dont love them very much then if you wont up your monthly amount". I was absolutely furious and made a complaint about it. They apologised profusely and said it was clear their call centre staff needed more training but that was it for me. I stopped the monthly direct debit immediately. I wont be emotionally blackmailed like that, it's so stupid and completely counter productive.

I worked with children for 20 years and never once saw or heard of anything the NSPCC might have done to help any of them. The 'Miles cries on the stairs' ad campaign gave me rage because it totally misrepresented abused and neglected children. I'm sure the image of a weeping, meek child was meant to tug at the heartstrings, but the reality of an abused and/or neglected child is that they are often angry, sometimes violent, and any empathy or understanding for those children was negated by the image the NSPCC like to project. Rant over.

What do the NSPCC actually do apart from make manipulative adverts?

pay their people too much and waste too much on admin and PR.

Just to clarify - I don't mean the IMPORTANT people - the field officers on the ground. I mean the admin. PR staff and CEOs at Head Office. It's shocking what some of these are paid!

Now in contrast, I've heard great things about Barnardo's. I used to give to them regularly. They're nowhere near so high-profile as the NSPCC and seem (possibly someone may know more and will correct me here, but...) to spend the money where it counts, and where the donors would expect them to.

I've heard of several successful people who started in Barnardo's homes, and as far as I know, there've never been any stories of child abuse in their care. Hope I'm right on this!

They've got issues, certainly.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/3611447-Potential-Systemic-Safeguarding-failures-in-NSPCC-Childline-illustrated-by-appointment-ending-of-relationship-with-Munroe-Bergdorf-Thread-2

I only give to small local charities now.

I supported my local nurse charity for my dad's care
That was enough for me and it helped.

I am very willing to be corrected if I am wrong, but I am fairly sure that money given to the RSPCA via direct debit or general charity donations goes to running head office etc. If you specifically want to support your local RSPCA shelter, then you need to give them money directly.

Not saying this is a problem, the staff need to be paid and the money has to come from somewhere in order for the RSPCA to operate at all, but I was surprised that more money didn't get distributed around.

But to be fair, this was what I was told by my local shelter some years ago, they may have changed their internal procedures.

"serious emotional neglect or lack of physical care or supervision", which it defined as including "parents never or hardly ever asking their child who they were going out with or where or what they were doing".

Don’t give to them if you don’t want to. But what this is referring to isn’t just about parents being a bit shit. It’s about the kids getting mixed up in drink, drugs, county lines gangs, sexual abuse, etc etc, because the parents don’t give a shit what they do as long as the parent doesn’t have to deal with them.