Would you be upset if your good friends child didn’t attend their child’s birthday party?

[Fridaynightnachos]

Friends Dd is turning 7 tomorrow, they are having a party at a theme park (parents to pay for their own children) they’ve been at each others parties since they were little, aside from her Dd missing one of my DD’s birthday when young, due to illness.
Dd has been ill on and off for a month (nothing contagious) and although can be fine at times and goes out when feeling ok, she sometimes wants to come home or is tired or badly behaved. The theme park is also expensive and it’s a full day thing. It would be so much easier to give it a miss at the moment, but I don’t want my friend to be upset
Would you be, or would you understand and be fine with it?

*Your child’s birthday party-sorry, title seems confusing!

As long as you're honest, I don't see a problem. Just say with DD being poorly lately, I don't think she'll be well enough for the theme park.

I think it just comes down to whether or Dd is well enough to attend. If she isn't then it's no different to the time that her friend couldn't come to Dd's party.

To me, the reason sounds wishy washy.

It sounds like you or your child don't want to go more than anything.

Which is fine too

Sounds a bit flakey but if you genuinely can't afford it you can't afford it. Bit late in the day to let them know this like.

If you’re paying for your own child to attend, then it’s your call. They’ve been ill. It’s not like the party parents have forked out for tickets that will go to waste.
I wouldn’t even give this a second thought op.

Sorry missed that it was tomorrow.
In which case I do think it's bad if you're going to say no when you've previously said the child would come.
Different if the child was too poorly on the day but honestly it just sounds like you don't want to go more than anything

@purpleme12 Why wishy washy, would both love to go, but these days if well enough, we can sometimes go out for an hour and Dd wants to go home. To travel to, pay and commit to a full day feels a bit overwhelming when I’m not sure how she’ll be
Just don’t want my friend to be upset with me about it

surely she needs to see a doctor then

It's a little odd that you have to pay for your child to attend a birthday party, but that aside - are other children going, is it a bigger gathering?

@purpleme12 Yes, she’s under a specialist

@NextPhaseOfLife Other children are going, it would be v expensive for her to pay for all

Just make up your mind and tell them either way

If she's ill she's ill.

I wouldn't be offended, people get ill.

If she's been ill for a while and is up and down I'd call it on the day.

If you’re paying surely it’s a play date rather than a party. She’s not really hosting it.

You need to make a decision and let her know today but I wouldn’t feel bad if you decide to bail.

What does your daughter want to do? Is she sad about not going? Can you go for say 2 hours and then head home?

I wouldn't pay to go to a kids party, best friend or not. I think its v cheeky.

I also wouldn't think a theme park was a great idea at this age. I wouldn't want want to spend all day there either.

BUT its tomorrow so as you've said you're going, it is bad form to pull out. However, if your child isn't up to it, given the paying yourself and walking all day, i'd say exceptionally, its ok to cancel.