New relationship

[Lvw1976]

Not sure where to start really
long story short , I’m 47 he’s 57 and we had been paying attention to each other for about 6 weeks (flirting) after I moved to a new town, I’ve been single 2 years , he’s been single about 7.
I'm perimenopause, struggling with the night sweats etc, zero sex drive , trying to start a new relationship has been a bit of a nightmare tbh.( my mood swings),
He’s met my youngest child and they get on well,
but the sex just isn’t great , we get on well in every other aspect, guess the question is do I carry on trying or just go back to being single, I had got the idea of being single for the rest of my life into my head and I don’t know if I can adjust to being in a couple again

Is the new man enjoying the sex? Are you just doing it through duty?

Is the sex with HIM not good, or could it be down to a lacklustre PM sex drive?

I’d be tempted to see if you can get hormones yet to help with libido before moving on too quickly.

Unless it is defo purely his way of doing things and then I think it depends on how important sex is to both of you.

If your sex drive is on the floor then even if Brad Pitt walked into your bedroom with a tub of ice cream you still wouldn’t have a satisfactory sexual experience and it could well feel like a chore I am sorry to say. Not that I am blaming you at all - another peri person here - are there other things that can do which will reinforce the intimacy without maybe going for the whole fireworks experience every time? I personally think a good spoon is very underrated. Are you looking into any kind of supplement or hormones to try and bring your drive back?

Hmmm. What flavour ice cream?

😂