Quick fixes to feel better about myself as an exhausted mum

[GingerKombucha]

I've got a toddler and a 4 month old baby, I work full time, the baby still feeds about 4 times a night and I'm generally exhausted. I've just turned 40 but feel like I've aged a decade in terms of looks and energy. I feel old, fat, tired and unattractive.

I feel like I never have time to myself as although both children are usually asleep by 8, 8.30 at the worst, I’m so exhausted I pretty much just order takeaway or cook something quick and go straight to bed.

We have a cleaner so the house isn’t dirty but I don’t feel on top of it, lots of decluttering needs to happen and it feels a bit chaotic and messy.

Does anyone have any quick fixes to feel better about myself, my appearance, my house or general energy levels? I could probably carve out 30 mins in the evening or morning to do something to help improve one of these but it would have to be at home.

Tbh I would probably use some of that time after they've gone to bed to do a bit of batch cooking so I'd got some healthy one pot freezer meals handy - just things like veg chilli/dahl/chopped salads that will do me for a few days in the fridge.

Can you get out with the baby in the day for a brisk walk? They do some mum and baby fitness groups in my area, I see them marching about with their buggies.

No wonder you’re exhausted, that sounds really hard!
When mine were very young I’d set myself the goal of getting all jobs done by the time they were in bed then use the time they were asleep for a bath usually.
I used to get up earlier and sit outside or sit with the back door open if raining just to get some fresh air and have a bit of calm.