To reject to this staffing set up at school?

[PilgorTheGoat]

My son’s teacher next year is the auntie of a boy in his class. This particular boy has caused trouble for my son over the years, name calling, teasing, once threatening to stab him with a pencil….. School has always dealt with it but I was concerned that the staff member I would need to speak to next year if this happens again is such a close relative.

I’ve now found out that school have just employed this boy’s mother as a TA and she will be in my younger sons class.

i feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. If this child continues to pick on my son then I either have to talk to his auntie about it or take it higher, so his mum gets involved and then she’s going to be in with my younger child.

I'm seriously considering moving schools. AIBU?

I think that you have a legitimate reason to go in and talk to the head.
They will defend their staff and say that they are totally impartial, but I would be asking them to talk to the aunt and make sure that she is aware of any issues between the boys.

Is there another class that he could move to? Then you get him out fo the aunt's class but alos, more importantly, out of the class of the boy who is causing trouble.

But I am going to be honest. If the boy is a real issue, I would consider moving schools.

But I should also say (as an ex teacher) that it is perfectly possible to deal with any situation professionally and you say that the school has always dealt with it.
And I am very aware of my own children's short comings, and so if I was the mum as the TA there is no way I would be taking that out on your younger dc, it wouldn't even occur to me to do that.

It’s a one class intake school so no room to moveZ

I'm worried about the mums professionalism as she was previously the school cook and gossiped a lot.

Haha reject the staffing situation. I assumed you would be staff and something not meet your contract or it was your job to organise.

Yeah, you could leave, but it's not up to you who's in which post.

Yeah I phrased the title wrong but didn’t really notice until I posted it.

If you get no joy with the head ( they’ll ALWAYS defend their staff and will put them first - rightly so) then I’d go to the chair of governors, highlighting your concerns .

I think you need to wait and see.
If you speak to the school now you are basically saying you are assuming the teacher will be unfair and unprofessional.I dont think this will be looked upon favourably

Look at it the other way…He might not get away with being such a bullying little shit with his mum AND his auntie in the room maybe? 🤷🏻‍♀️

He has called his mum a c**t on school grounds more than once….

In your shoes I would seriously consider moving your child from this school OP. My DS was in the same class as a girl whose mother was the teacher. My DS and her DD got on really well, but for some reason her Mother took against that, and was constantly nit picking at my DS, frequently separating them, both in class AND in the playground, which seemed really unfair to both children. In the end, I asked to have my DS moved to a different class, because it was making him really miserable, and he was totally aware, even at 5 years old, that he was being singled out. The set up where your child goes to school, sounds like it has all the makings of a similar or worse situation, such a shame.

Sign your son up for self defense classes

That’s awful - how was that even allowed to teach her own child?? in my children’s school any relative doesn’t teach in the same year group as the child.

This is why it’s always better that teachers teach in different schools to their kids 😬

I think you need to hold fire and see how it pans out.
You can complain if this child is bullying your child however you can't complain about something that hasn't happened yet