AITA for realising life is too short?

[OneQuirkyCat]

Hi all, would appreciate your thoughts.
im an older parent, first at 37, second at 42. Parents in their 80s do very definitely feeling the pain at both ends.
last year I had a condition that meant I couldn’t walk, while also dealing with my husband’s cancer diagnosis, working and keeping everything lovely for the kids.
My geographically closest friend (10 mins away) never contacted me throughout, unless it was about her drama. She is single and has no kids. I’m very generous and would have been visiting, taking her food, doing her shopping etc, had it been her immobilised.
eventually I told her I cba and didn’t see the point of the friendship, though thanked her and was sentimental and positive all the good times we’d had.
i know for a fact that she’ll have spent most evenings wasted. Also know there’s nothing major going on with her / she’s lazy and selfish and my role in her life has always been listening/ supportive/ dealing with her men- related drama.
our mutual friends are furious with me. AITA for deciding life is too short for people who pretend to be friends while giving zero fucks?

No. And yanbu either.

Have your mutual friends heard both sides of the story? And are they aware of what you’re dealing with? Why can’t they provide her with the support she wants? Or are they cross with you because you’ve been profit so they don’t have to?

Thank you. I think they see my point ( they def know my situation!) but I’ve made a group situation awkward (I.e. I’ll never be included again) so it’s inconvenient. Yes they know what’s been going on for me. Dramatic friend has form for tantrums so maybe IATA as they’ve had to deal with the aftermath of my decision?

I hope your husband’s doing well and you’re better. You’ve been through a lot. You’re so right to have done it, she doesn’t deserve you as a friend and if they others don’t respect it they can fuck off too.

AITA? Not sure what that means

I think there comes a point where we just don't have the time for fair weather friends.

YaNbu. You simply found out who your friend is, as often happens during illness and terrible times.

AITA is am I the asshole? I think.

AITA = Am I the arsehole xx

It’s from a different site. It means Am I the Arsehole (I’m not saying asshole, we’re not in America).

She sounds like an alcoholic. I probably would have just have quietly dropped her. I have in the past with a friend who just used to talk about themselves.

Hope you and DH are doing well now