Family Court and Ex ruining my life. Need positive stories

[Newmum1998]

Just venting... I don’t want to go into too much details but I have been going through the family courts for THREE years. Initially my ex wasn’t allowed to see our child due to safeguarding concerns. However he did some supervised contact in a contact centre and then was allowed unsupervised after this and the contact quickly progressed to overnights. Our child was very young at the time and the safeguarding concerns were serious and I couldn’t believe he was allowed alone with our child as it wasn’t safe. My ex hadn’t changed at all and his issues hadn’t been addressed. The contact carried on but then all contact had to be stopped again due to more serious safeguarding concerns. My ex is now trying to get some supervised contact again then progress to unsupervised, It’s been three years of dealing with this my ex, solicitors and courts and I am FED up. I genuinely believe if my ex gets our child unsupervised again something very very very bad is going to happen, I have no faith in the court system though and am a wreck. I’m trying to live my life and be a full time working parent and I just feel like I can’t even function. At this point,

does anyone have any positive stories to share with me?

Sadly no advice but I wanted to bump this for you. 💐

I am really sorry you are going through this op. It is like your ex is using the family court system to harass you and they are complicit. I went through years and years of it as a grandparent carer as my gs1's violent thug father took me to court again and again for contact. I was slaughtered by the first Judge (I was unrepresented) and he won supervised, then unsupervised contact.

However, during this time he was picked up by the Police driving away from the court over the limit. He then attacked a disabled man and then a sportsman and ended up charged with gbh. He even intimidated the witnesses. It then had to go back to court and contact again became supervised.It does feel as though you are punished for other's failings.

I do believe there is an order you can apply for called a section 91 (14) application which restricts applications to the court in that he would have to seek the court's permission first. I think you may want to post in Legal about this because I am unsure and no expert, only a survivor of the adversarial system. A later Judge made the point that as primary carer, the impact of proceedings upon me impacted my grandson.

I can tell you that when my gs turned 16, he point blank refused to see his father and paternal grandparents ever again. He said they blighted his childhood and although I tried my best to limit contact, my best was not good enough.