Is this acceptable for a teacher to say..

[Countrygirlxo]

My son is in year 7. So my child has sports day outside today in the sweltering heat. Drinking lots of water he asked if he could go to the toilet, the teacher who he hasn't spoke to or seen before said no he can wait, he didn't complain he waited until there were a few of them that needed to go and the teacher gave my son a 'key', a kind of card to access the door for them to go in.
He said "don't lose it or you're a dead man walking." My son wasn't bothered about the way he was spoken to (which he said was grumpy and wasnt said in a joke way) and shrugged it off but mentioned it in conversation, I just think it's an odd thing and unacceptable way to speak to a 12 year old as a teacher.

I train young people, in an education setting!
You do have serious issues with discipline and common sense, common good behaviour, but it is and should not be the norm.
You cannot just drop standards till they hit the ground and punish young pupils just because others did this and that...
It does not even sound like it is working, does it? I am not saying it is the teachets fault, but more staff may be needed and a bit of trust goes a long way!

I feel so fucking sorry for most teachers (obviously not the OP). It must be an absolute dog's life.

I was a pupil once

Yeah? And I was on a plane last year, doesn’t make me a fucking pilot, does it?

This really is a storm in a teacup. You don't know the tone of voice the teacher used and the child was 12, not 6. It really is not worth worrying about.

but more staff may be needed and a bit of trust goes a long way!

Funding cuts passed you by then?

And a swathe of shit parenting tbh.

I am aware of cuts.
This can be changed, maybe in the very near future.
A bit of positivity will help!

I'm more baffled parents are going to Secondary School sports day! Was one of the bonuses of them leaving primary 😂

I wouldn’t hold your breath.
I’d rather a bit of realism.
If you’re suggesting that a change of government is going to somehow magically fix the issues of underfunding and understaffing in schools then I fear you’re in for a disappointment.

Oh dear! Not only a change of government, but really a change of attitude supported by more staff and starting on earlier years on corridors/ toilets discipline.
If we start change on the mindset that it will not work, then guess what, it will not work, for you.
Surely you do have children yourselves. How much would you approve of having your child soiling themselves in a classroom because they could not access a toilet? Let's be realistic, they do have activities during break time, not much time to eat is left, they may have drunk buckets of water because is hot, be on their period, feel ill, have a urine infection....
It is a basic right.
I am not denying that some get to mischief, including vandalism.
But what I am saying is that this needs to change. We need to teach them discipline and appreciation of what they do have and allow them access to the flipping toilets.

If my child had some form of health needs that meant that soiling was a possibility then I’d expect there to be sensible systems in place.
other than that, I’d expect my healthy teenager to be able to plan her toileting so that she doesn’t need to leave a lesson to go.
Kids in and out like yo-yos is incredibly disruptive.
I’m not allowed to just go to the loo whenever I feel
like it in my work. I have to plan ahead. Or wait.

Lighten up would be my suggestion????

@MushMonster

I was a pupil once as well. The toilets were unlocked. Half the kids were to scared to use them because they were always full of kids missing lessons, smoking, and generally misbehaving. I think having to get a key and feel safe using them would have been far better than not going all day.