To not invite my sister to my mums birthday present I brought her

[Justwed2023]

It’s my mums 70th and I thought it would be a nice idea to take my mum to the theatre. She loves the theatre and she’s been twice before both times I have taken her.
im one of 5 siblings. I wanted to do something with my mum on her own and spend some time just the two of us.
my sister has got a huge problem and she’s angry that I didn’t invite her.
i now feel like its put such a cloud over the day. I hope my mum can still enjoy it.
the two of them are always together. They dont invite me to anything and now im left feeling like I’ve done something really wrong

Not at all, you got a gift for your mum and your going to enjoy it

YANBU. You’re adults. If you want to go just you and your mum then do it! Your sister is just jealous, like you say they always meet alone and you don’t have an issue. She sounds really protective of your mum and like she’s the golden child so your mum can’t possibly spend alone time without any of her other children.

If you'd like to take just your DM then do it. Just because she goes everywhere with your DM doesn't mean you have to unvite/ pay for your DS too.

If they don't invite you, why does she think you should invite her??

Does she or your Mum instigate all the time they spend together & not invite you?

I can't imagine having that many siblings, one is a pain the arse enough thanks!

Don't relent, just go & ENJOY it!!

If the OP's mum would like to invite an extra person to the theatre, then I'd say it's up to her, not the OP, to buy the ticket. Theatre tickets are expensive. Obviously I don't know about the OP, but if I were in her position I could afford to buy a ticket for myself and my mum but my finances wouldn't stretch to a third ticket for another person, whether it was my sister or anyone else.

How do you know she isn't?

Are you the sister?

Tell your sister that you haven't been included in trips so she can get to fuck!

What a bloody hypocrite!

Me? No I'm not the sister but OP hasn't stated whether she's expected to pay for her sister's ticket or just invite her. I was saying that we don't know the sister doesn't expect it

I have done the same thing for my mum's 80th this year. Sister can sort out her own thing!

list all the things they do together and ask her if she thinks you should have been angry about all that because you were just happy they were having a good time but now you're wondering if you were meant to be cross about it.

YANBU but need thicker skin. The same thick skin your sister has when she exuded you! Ignore and carry on. Tune out.

Nice to take your mum to the theatre. Don't let anyone ruin it.