Being deliberately ignored

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I'm being deliberately ignored by a work colleague. I say hello and she looks away. We've had a few nice chats. This has been going on for over one week now.

AIbu to ignore her too or should I ask what's wrong?

I see her everyday but we work in different departments.

She's a childish, ignorant prick. Don't stoop to her level - a breezy "morning" when you first get in will suffice, then get on with your life and don't give her brain space.

Don’t dignify her stupid behaviour by asking what’s wrong just rise above it.

I fear this is the actual case. It's really triggering me. I am extremely sure I've done nothing to warrant her behaviour. I suspect others have actually recently left their job because of her

Do you need to talk to her in order to do your work?

If not just say hi as you walk past and don't even slow down to see if she replies.
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What she's doing only matters if you give a shit about her or what she's playing at. Act as though you haven't even noticed that she's not replying because you are just doing the polite greeting thing but have no interest at all in her reply or lack of one and forget about her the moment you've gone by.

Do you think I should say hello or ignore her? Honestly I'm so triggered by this. It hurts me.

No don't need to talk to her at all. I think it's a good idea to say hello and just keep on walking

just say hello and then carry on with your day. Don't react or respond to her stupid behaviour in any way. Don't even notice it

It's definitely not you op, she sounds like an imature teenager.
I'd just say good morning to the room in general and ignore after that.

Personally I would keep saying hello to her. Childish people like that have a habit of twisting thing and could potentially end up claiming that you are ignoring her.

Her behaviour is constantly on my mind. I'm so triggered and upset. I think I'll say hello, wave and walk by her.

I'll try not to but it's a quiet office and it's so obvious. I know by heart the last 1 minute chat we had and it was lighthearted.

I agree with you. It's all so immature but hurtful

This is what worries me. I will keep saying hello

Why do you care so much? It sounds like you are a bit over invested in this relationship - could that be why she has backed right off? I can't imagine memorising a light hearted chat with a colleague, or getting so upset that someone has not said hello back to me

Don't worry about it op it's her problem not yours. Just keep smiling and saying hello to annoy her.

Could she have difficulty with face recognition? I do; and sometimes people have thought that I was deliberately looking away when I just failed to spot them.

If you're quite sure that this isn't the case, then it's impolite of her, but may not be directed at you specifically. Some people seem to think that any interaction in the workplace, howeve brief, outside of designated times is a sinful and dangerous distraction to be avoided at all costs.

We had one at work. She’d been manipulating and bullying by silent treatment for 30 years. Created a terrible atmosphere which I assume was the plan. Never challenged by management. I assume she’s still there to this day doing it

If you got on before then has something happened? Could someone have stirred a rumour that you said something Asher or did you do a minor faux pas?

I would speak to her really loudly and obviously in front of everyone. “Good morning Jane, how are you today?” And stand staring at her waiting for a response. She will make herself look like an idiot.

Is there a reason this is triggering / upsetting / hurting you so much? I understand being a bit over sensitive as I can be myself but I think this is too much.

I have people who don’t say hello back in my office blocks, yes it’s rude but I just stop saying hello and get on with my day

I don't even say hello to people like this. I look right through or past them. In groups I talk to anyone except them. I am a very friendly easy going person but if someone wants to play mind games and status games I just have to ignore them. Too many nice, sane people in the world to get to know better without being sucked into the dance moves of the manipulators.

No don't give her a hello when she's treating you like that. Just walk past her and ignore her. See how she likes it

Well said. Very true

I'd say her name and ask if she was deliberately ignoring me.

Someone I used to work with and like very much used to walk past me and said hello in the street in our lunch break and I was so wrapped up in thought that I quite often genuinely didn't see him. He would say "You've done it again!" and we'd laugh about it.

A guard at the station said "Good morning!" to me this morning and I'd gone past her on the stairs before I registered that she was addressing me, looked back, apologised and said "Good morning!" to her.

I would ignore her and mirror what she does tbh.

I do this on the school run. Gave up trying to smile and be friendly with a few parents, if people look through me or look away then I mirror their behaviour back. It's childish but I feel great when I do it!