Do you call people out who push in queues etc?

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I can't stand it when people just push into long queues and usually say something. I know people will say 'just leave it', but this is how they keep getting away with it, by relying on nobody saying anything.

I know there are much worse things in life, but when you've been queueing a long time and you're tired and fed up, it's not nice.

This can apply to other things in life too.

I was queueing to board a plane last night after a long delay, a woman in her 20s decided she didn't fancy the long queue and just pushed in near the front. A woman must've seen me looking irritated so she tapped me on the shoulder and said 'Just leave her, she might not be all there'.

Lightdarkshade · Today 09:40

I did queue jump once but asked permission as my father who is in his mid eighties just couldn't stand easily in the easy jet priority boarding queue. I let people in if they ask and have a reason.

I think that's perfectly acceptable, if people ask and explain, hardly anyone would complain. From time to time, I'll tell old people with baskets in the supermarket to go in front of me, if they seem to be struggling.

Did you send them back?

Airport security is the one that really angers me! Get there earlier like everyone else does. And of course things can happen beyond your control, and if that’s the case pay the £5 for fast track.

I know it’s probably unreasonable of me just winds me up 😂

Or you can remain seated until the queue has boarded. You have your allocated seat, it's not like you get a better deal by being first in line.

I do, but mainly because it buys me time to unload all my shopping onto belt and get my bags ready to pack in a relaxed pace. In fact for big shop I’ve let 2 people through before to buy me time 🤷🏼‍♀️

I only did once in home bargains not intentional. Had DD with me she's severely autistic LD and was jumping and flapping because she likes going in there. Anyway stood in long queue behind these 2 women giving us dirty looks. Staff said she would open the next till for us I would usually let people in front of me go but they were just so rude. Was served & out before they even unloaded their shopping.

The reason is they are just rude and arrogant and think they are more important than everyone else.

If I am queueing in a supermarket with a full trolly and someone behind just has a few things in a basket I will invite them to go before me, it just seems polite but also gives me more time to get things on the conveyor belt.

But when in a queue in say the main post office, which has one long queue and you peel off in order to the next available window, then I definitely say something. It happened where a yuppy type barged in at the front and I called him out, he said he was in a hurry and I asked if he thought the rest of us were just there for the good of our health. Some other people started murmuring about him being rude and inconsiderate and he left. Quite a few said "well done" but if I hadn't said anything he would have just got away with and probably not for the first time.

That sort of rude and entitled behaviour is just the thin end of the wedge and the more they get away with it the more things they try, possibly getting into real trouble. Try it getting into some night clubs and you'll probably get beaten up.

I might 'challenge' queue jumpers but not 'call them out'.

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This is true. “Call them out” does have overtones of challenging someone to a pistols at dawn duel doesn’t it.

” Ha! Sir Queue de Jumpe, once again you have maligned my fair lady’s honour by pushing in front of her in the Waitrose checkout armed with two mangoes and a bottle of Sancerre, while she has a trolley full of yellow stickered goods to deal with. I will meet you sir, in the car park at dawn. My second will attend your second to sort out the details.”

Yes I've done it a few times with mixed results. Usually I've found that if I challenge a woman who is pushing in other people back me up and they usually slink away embarrassed. I'm wary about challenging men though because they tend to become aggressive and try to justify their behaviour in some way, and also other people around don't comment or intervene if I challenge a man. So my rule is, challenge women but rarely challenge men unless they appear to be physically frail.

I guess this is a good rule generally, when challenging someone who is in the wrong you need to be prepared that they might become aggressive or even violent - so only take on people you think you could at least have a fair fight with.

Yes. Though I didn’t when our kids were small because it embarrassed them.

They call people out now too 😁

I had a mild set to with a woman in Asda and she erupted with a stream of very colourful language, I restrained myself from swearing back, dignity at all times when rowing in public! I am also smiling at the connection between our user names

Yep I do it all the time - once in a queue for check in at airport (couldn’t do online check in) and a man decided he would start a second queue and went to the front and stood next to the people there, everyone tutting and moaning under their breath, so I walked over to him and loudly said that there is only one queue and he needs to join the back of the line - he was annoyed and tried to argue but suddenly the other people found their voices and agreed making him move back, everyone started clapping. But had I not done it then nobody else would have

The best queues to by-pass are the sheep drivers that get into single file way before the merge in turn. Fine by me if you want to leave an empty lane.

We both need to up our taste in supermarkets,
but obviously not music 😆

That's true but I guess there's a reason they board people with kids, disabilities, additional needs first rather than last

I'm British, Queues matter! but for me personally, it depends on the queue and whether the person is being absent minded or deliberately rude.

So supermarket where the queue isn't always obvious, can't get upset also not overly bothered to rush to get on a plane. Ride queues is where my inner rage comes out. I've shamed my family in Alton Towers and Disneyworld blocking queue jumpers from passing me.

Yes. I was very very confrontational as a teenager. I have mellowed as I’ve gotten older. If someone pushes in front of me all that hard work and inner peace goes out the window and suddenly I’m ready to scrap. It’s one of the few things that still really irks me to the point I have to say something. Don’t know why but it does.

Unfortunately not, but standing my ground meant I stayed ahead of them.

Every single time. Always polite and more of a "the queue starts over there, yes I know it's not all that clear is it" but I always call it out.

No the best one to do is slingshot round a roundabout.

sometimes there's a valid reason - I was leaving the airport to catch a train and the queue for departures was blocking the route to the station. I had to essentially join the queue and walk past a line of waiting people - one lady said 'excuse me!', gave me the stink eye and moved back in front of me. I just walked around her. In her defense, it would have seemed like i was queue jumping but I absolutely was not!

This one does give me the rage a bit. If they were sheep they’d actually follow the bloody instructions and queue properly in both lanes and then merge in turn. It would save everyone a significant amount of time. There’s actually a huge amount of very boring maths involved and it’s really annoying that the vast majority of drivers seemingly refuse to accept that it’s actually better to queue in both lanes to the point of the lane merge

I may be slightly over invested as a family member did a lot of the work on the modelling of how to make road queues move faster 😁

Yesterday on the train. No queue, it's just a swarm, but train etiquette is still followed, letting everyone off the train first and leaving a space where the doors open, everyone standing either side to wait. Lad barges past the last person getting off the train before anyone else had moved. The train employee on the platform was so annoyed he followed the lad onto the train to tell him off. The lad's response? 'You snooze you lose mate!' 🤣

I see it most at school. There are the same few people who either go right to the front and just push in or just HAPPEN to notice a friend at the front of the queue they need to speak to. It drives me mad - we all want to pick up or drop off our children and get to work (or whatever they do). But obviously some people are just more important 🙄

I don’t call it out because I don’t want to be THAT mum. My husband will though.