Anyone ever re registered a birth, can you help me with this please? Very anxious

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Next month I have an appointment to re register my daughter’s birth to add her dad to the certificate. He left me before birth and left the country so was unable to be added the first time (he specifically said he didn’t want to be on it). I am worrying a lot about whether they will ask the reason for the re registration/why he wasn’t on it the first time? I have huge trauma from what happened and whilst I am ok now (and happy for him to be on it) I really don’t want to have to re live it and explain the circumstances back then. Does anyone know if they will ask this?

And if you do need a reason prepared to help you feel less anxious. ‘We weren’t married and he was out the country at the time and then we just never got round to it.’

I'm a registrar and we don't ask and don't care. If he's there and confirms he is the father he goes on.

However, why would you do this? If he really wants to be on it let him push it through. Have him take you to court to be on there.
There is no advantage to having him on there.
Loads of birth certificates don't have father's details and no one cares in this day and age.
I don't understand why you would give this person parental responsibility, he failed at the first hurdle.
And as @DeliciousApples said I would be really nervous if I even had a tiny fear he could take the child abroad for a holiday and not return them.
Let him be in their life, fine. Don't relinquish any parental responsibility.
If it's all great in the future then he can even be added at child's choice when they are an adult.
I've done re-registration for adults who wanted father added to obtain dual nationality and it isn't an issue at all.

I didn't get DS1 father on birth certificate first time round as tbh I didn't think he needed to be there as long as he signed the online form.

Turns out the online form has to be done by a solicitor etc but anyway, not once was I asked why he wasn't on the original certificate etc, and was very easy to pop him on there

Hi there I did exactly this a few weeks ago. They didn't ask any questions at all they were totally professional. Don't be anxious. IF they ask you can say he was abroad or that it's none of their business but there's not a chance they will. It's quite common that a dad might be out of the country or ill or something (in my case I didn't trust him and he threatened me with court if I didn't do it so I just gave in as I didn't want to go to court and risk him adding child arrangements onto the agenda too)

Maybe he has already threatened court and she's decided to save everyone the bother.

Maybe she is trying to avoid court as if he gets a court date he can add all sorts of other things onto the agenda.

@Unexpectedlysinglemum thanks. People keep saying don’t put him on but the reality is he IS her dad and it’s HER certificate and he can go through various processes to add himself anyway if he wanted to. Did you double barrel the surname?

He may be her dad, but you are her mum.

What do you want?

Are you happy with her name? Does she have your name? if so do not change it

Why on earth are you facilitating this for him?
I wouldn’t be putting him on it. You are making a foolish mistake.

If you are going to though, and they ask, just say he was out of the country and not able to be contacted.
Thats the truth.