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Friend doesn’t seem happy about my new job

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Emma84882 · 24/06/2024 16:57

Hi Mumsnetters.

Have a friend who lives in the same village as me. We run into each other fairly regularly (probably about once a week on dog walks) and go for the odd drink when we can diaries to match! She is aware that I’ve been job hunting for a few months after a difficult time at work (although I am mindful of not going on about it to her because it’s not that interesting to other people really).

Last week I landed my first choice of job, which I feel so happy and relieved about. We were going out for drinks with some friends one night (unrelated to the job offer). My other friend mentioned the new job and gave me a card (I had texted her beforehand but I hadn’t brought it up that evening). I briefly filled her in on it (but again, tried to be mindful not to let it dominate the conversation).

My other friend has barely spoken to me since (we would normally message in the week) and has not even congratulated me on. I appreciate the world doesn’t revolve around me and it isn’t that interesting to other people if I change jobs, but I suppose I hoped that she might be a bit more congratulatory about it. She does seem to be very off with me. Do I just let it go? I am probably overthinking it but I do feel a little hurt. If the boot had been on the other foot, I would have been delighted for her.

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Tandora · 24/06/2024 21:53

Is she also looking for work? Could she be jealous? Sorry OP, that sounds a bit shitty really .

DPotter · 24/06/2024 21:57

Congratulations Flowers

Did she or someone close to her apply for the same job ?

hopscotcher · 24/06/2024 22:02

Could it be that she's going through a bit of a tough time? I've had patches where I've found it hard to be happy for other people because things weren't feeling great for me. Give her time.

bluebeck · 24/06/2024 22:04

Could she be miffed because you told your other friend and not her?

Kitkatfiend31 · 24/06/2024 22:18

bluebeck · 24/06/2024 22:04

Could she be miffed because you told your other friend and not her?

This was my thought too.

fruitbrewhaha · 24/06/2024 22:21

Perhaps she just has a lot on this week. If you talked about it on the night out she probably is t going to message you about it too.

greenmario · 24/06/2024 22:36

Hmm

malmi · 24/06/2024 22:39

Is she vegan and your new job is as a butcher?

I bet that's it.

Circumferences · 24/06/2024 22:47

Other people's jobs aren't actually that interesting to other people. I'd never be ott "congratulations" to someone I know who just changed jobs 😂

Maybe she's feeling sad because she won't see you so much now?

Emma84882 · 25/06/2024 11:52

Tandora · 24/06/2024 21:53

Is she also looking for work? Could she be jealous? Sorry OP, that sounds a bit shitty really .

Thanks. Not that she has said. She seems settled with her job.

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Emma84882 · 25/06/2024 11:53

Thank you. I don’t think so. The job is London based and I will be working remotely (we are in different industries). I don’t think I’ve even mentioned the company to her

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Emma84882 · 25/06/2024 11:53

hopscotcher · 24/06/2024 22:02

Could it be that she's going through a bit of a tough time? I've had patches where I've found it hard to be happy for other people because things weren't feeling great for me. Give her time.

It could well be, thank you. That is a very good point.

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Emma84882 · 25/06/2024 11:54

Kitkatfiend31 · 24/06/2024 22:18

This was my thought too.

Sorry wasn’t clear, told them both by text the day that I found out. The drinks were after this

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Emma84882 · 25/06/2024 11:55

Yes exactly that! 🤣

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Emma84882 · 25/06/2024 11:56

Circumferences · 24/06/2024 22:47

Other people's jobs aren't actually that interesting to other people. I'd never be ott "congratulations" to someone I know who just changed jobs 😂

Maybe she's feeling sad because she won't see you so much now?

No, and that’s a fair point, which I acknowledged in my original post. I just thought she would be more pleased for me. Another friend has just bought a new house, I’m chuffed for her because she’s so happy but it won’t change my life. Thanks

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