To not want to watch every single Euros match

[mrslty]

I might be very unfair here, so expecting backlash, but wondering if I am the only one who doesn’t want to watch every single euros match?

I will happily watch all the England games and the odd other one, but my husband takes over the living room to watch every single match, has taken leave to ensure he sees all the games. Won’t miss one. Guess I’m unfair but can’t help feeling slightly annoyed, especially as the living room is pretty much taken up with football for the next month. Would be nice if could he could watch a couple at the pub or his mates but won’t. AIBU ?

Why won’t he go to the pub on occasion? Couldn’t give a rolling doughnut about football but when the Rugby World Cup is on I take leave too to watch my team, all my team’s pool games and then usually the quarters, semis and finals. I live alone but when I didn’t I would stay in for the ones with a mad kick off time - like 3am - but go to the pub for the sociable hour ones, it’s nice to have the buzzy atmosphere.

Can you and he agree that he either goes out or stays home for the weekend ones to give you some breathing space for example? Doesn’t he have mates he could go out with?

I watch them all. It's once every 4 years.

Have you got a TV in the bedroom he can go to watch them?

On the positive side OP, there will be less on from now.

Why not ask him if he minds going down the local pub to watch it? Or can he watch it on a phone/tablet/computer.
Have you told him how you feel? Has he asked if you mind?
Relationships require communication, if you can't ask him a simple question or have a normal discussion, you've got bigger issues than football

I really don't like football so DH watched it in his office as the living room is the family room.

If the DCs are in their rooms and I'm not watching anything then he'll use the big tv in the living room but that's all.

It would drive me crazy if it was all the time, I can't bear the noise of it.

He needs to share, he's not the only person in the house.

Plus I'd be pretty annoyed about him taking leave to watch football unless he has loads to spare! Do you get to take days off just for yourself without doing anything in the house or for the DCs?

I don’t actually know why he won’t go pub occasionally. He does have mates he could watch football with but he wants to watch it all at home in the living room. I have spoken to him but he gets annoyed so it’s a no go convo, and also aware it’s once every four years so wasn’t sure if I was being unfair here. Guess I am.

I can’t go anywhere else as we have a very young child who still shares a room with us, we live in a one bed. So can’t really get away. And no he’s not staying because he’s concerned about helping with dc if he wakes up.

has taken leave to ensure he sees all the game

That’s actually kind of sweet😂 I’ve never cared enough to take annual leave to watch an event but he’s clearly all in. It’s a 90 minute match, it’s not that long

My OH watches every match, not just the Euros but every match he can. I watch whatever I like on the iPad sitting next to him. Everyone’s happy. Let him watch his football.

He doesn’t care if I mind and he won’t watch at pub with mates. I’ve said something but it just causes an argument and he can’t see my pov because he said its once every four years. So maybe I am wrong

O don't care about the football, but I care about his attitude more so that you're accepting he's right.

hes a selfish man who doesn't care about you!!

unless he has a bloody good reason for not wanting to watch it at a mates or the pub, then he should be doing that as often as possible and giving you a break from it.

i get the wanting to watch every match etc im pretty obsessive with various things (Tour de France, Rugby, some cricket) however I don't dominate the whole living area, restricting the use to others!!

It's not really every 4 years though is it because there's the world cup in two years' time. Similar situation here but we have the sound off and music/conversation is allowed over the top. Is that a compromise you could reach for the less important games?

I have been watching quite a few games. It's good fun!

That would bore the arse off me. It's not like football is a rare commodity. Not sure what you can do other than boobytrap the TV or something. You have my sympathies though OP. I'd have left the house and gone to the pub myself by now (assuming I could find one that isn't showing football 😊)

Growing up with a man who would monopolise the TV, I swore that football would never be on our main TV. My DH can watch on the iPad, on the playroom tv or on his phone but I won't be watching it on our main tv if I'm in the house.

I'd be accidentally tampering with the WiFi if he's streaming it, or accidentally cause a power cut around kick off to see if he fucks off to the pub. But I'm pretty.

It may be once every 4 years but why does his need to watch every single match trump yours? Have you got family you can go and stay with for a break if he really won't come promise?

I can’t believe you seem of these replies.

I like football, and I’ve been watching quite a lot of the matches.

But you have a young child. No parent of a small child has time to be watching that amount of football surely? What about bedtimes, meal times, just playing with your child? Surely that can’t all be left to you?

And taking annual leave must mean he has less annual leave left to spend with you and your child?

Honestly I have been watching as much as I can by youngest is 10 and happy to watch it too, most of the time. I don’t take time off work to watch it so I miss the day time games. That’s just life!

We watch them all if we are in and if they don’t clash with any cricket that I’m watching but we watch lots of sport anyway .

So he shuts you down when you voice your needs, takes leave from work to watch football, and can’t afford to house his family properly.

Sorry to be blunt, but he sounds pretty shitty.

Don't understand the obsession with football and every match seems a lot. What do you and DC do? Assume you can't play in the living room as you would be disturbing him which seems unfair in such a small flat

It would drive me insane, I can't bear all the shouting and personally never watch sport of any kind. It's not fair but I would retreat to another room with a laptop and a boxed set of something you love.

The problem here is that your husband is a selfish lazy arsehole and most people have missed that to talk about what you technically asked them about. Watching football would be fine in an otherwise healthy relationship which yours clearly isn't.

Start a new post op. Talk about how your husband can't look after his child, and about he doesn't give a shiny shit what you want. Then when you get the answers, start working out a way to leave.