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FlipAGAIN · 23/06/2024 20:04

How do you cope with your slip down a financial level? So on paper we have been a similar friendship group for 20 years but the reality is we were at the bottom and they were waaaay higher. No drama from this, same outlook etc. But new plans show things like ‘let’s save up £50/month!’ to do something is pie in the sky. The tension is just awk cos I’m the 1 of 4 that has to set a budget so much lower than they would. How do I avoid being fun police?

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LittleMonks11 · 23/06/2024 20:06

"Guys, I could save £X a month. Would that work?"

"Course!"

FlipAGAIN · 23/06/2024 20:26

they will def agree with that. And also def think the trips / plans would be better based on their budget which would be 4 times as much. So I’m the bad guy

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AmelieTaylor · 23/06/2024 20:28

Sorry guys, I'm going to have to skip this one, maybe next time!

LittleMonks11 · 23/06/2024 21:03

If they are true friends they will be more about who they're with - not what they're doing

Cazpar · 23/06/2024 21:05

You simply say you can't afford to do that, but you also organise something you can afford to do.

If you just keep declining or saying you can't do X then you'll stop being included full stop. So make sure you take positive active steps to organise other events.

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