Has anyone had a friend randomly drop off?

[Iloveicecream1]

It's happened to me, it may not be personal but I got in touch with her first the last two times we spoke.
She used to text me or I'd text her either every day or every other day, I'd even say her moreso. We initially worked together so we used to speak a lot in the office or online, but then she left.

As I say the last two occasions it's been me, so I'm leaving it to her. We've never fallen out, I haven't expressed any extreme political views. I don't just talk about myself.

She had a bereavement a couple of weeks ago so I messaged her my condolences but she changed the subject, understandably probably doesn't want to talk about it, but we've talked about other things since then.

Anyway she's just stopped texting me for a couple of weeks now which isn't like her. It's a shame, but it happens. Has this happened to anyone? Should I message again?

I can see that she's regularly online on WhatsApp too. She usually replies to texts immediately or within say 2 hours at most.

She's had a bereavement so give her some space and allow her to get in touch in her own time

It may be that, I'll see what happens. Hopefully she'll get in touch at some point!

With all due respect, why wait? If she is a good friend who is grieving, I would continue to message (light heartedly, small jokes and funny occurrences or thoughts of the day) and not get annoyed. She may not have the energy to respond but she will know that you are thinking of her.

This isn't a tennis match.

If your friend has been bereaved, her mental health may not be at its best. When my mental health isn't great I find it really hard to respond to my friends' messages. I check WhatsApp, but as much as I want to get back to people I can't always do it. The best friends that I have are the ones who let me know that they care for me, that there's no pressure to get back to them, but they're there if and when I'm ready. One of my friends sends me regular photos of her cats when I am unresponsive and I appreciate it so much. I hope your friend is ok and that sharing my experience with you helps you to understand what could be going on with her.

Thanks for your replies. I think it's because she has been talking as usual since the bereavement but then dropped off a few weeks later. I'll give it another week or two then msg.

Have you experienced bereavement? Grief doesn't neatly package itself away never to be seen again after a few short weeks.

Yep, I have thanks for asking.

When my dad died last year, I didn’t do well at keeping in touch. Unfortunately my “friends” didn’t check in or give me chance so when I did feel able to they then just ignored me. Like PP said don’t make it a tennis match. Check in as you feel you can and be open if she gets back in touch if you feel you can.