Please can someone tell me if I am being unreasonable.
My ExH and I have 50/50 care of my DS. When we first seperated I claimed Child Benefit and deducted 50% of the value from his half of childcare / activities etc that he had always done. So whilst I never transferred the funds directly to him we both financially benefitted from the amount and it was put against my sons extra curricular activities. My earnings have since increased and it is no longer in my interest to claim Child Benefit so I suggest my ExH take it over from me and so for the last 2 years it has been paid directly to him. I do not see a penny of it as I do all the childcare finances and so I request an amount from him every month. I asked if I could offset some of the CB so I could benefit slightly from it and he threw a massive strop about it and cancelled the CB all together. Eventually I think he realised that it was a stupid thing to do so he started claiming it again and still claims it now.
Last year my son started two new clubs, one my ExH signed him up for and paid for without my knowledge and told me after the event, it clashes with the second activity however my partner and I paid for the equipment for the 1st club which was equal to the value of 50% of the cost so in my mind we are financially equal on that front. The second activity's kit list was going to cost about £150 but my parents, uncle and brother kindly gave my DS enough money for the sole purpose of him getting this kit. ExH and I split the cost of the club which is paid monthly 50/50 and once a week we have to swap the kit over from one house to the other.
Today I realised we were missing a bit of kit for the second activity and purchasing would be about £20. I asked ExH if he could purchase it from the Child Benefit money as right now I am not in a financial position to pay for it. He has said that the Child Benefit money is allocated to paying for his half of DS's clubs and that purchasing this bit of kit is 50/50 or I should buy it myself.
I know its silly but in my mind he gets an extra £1200 a year and requesting the diversion of £20 to a piece of kit he needs / wants. He is not living on the breadline, he drives a nice car, plays golf regularly, goes on lads weekends away, goes out socialising alot etc.
I really am so frustrated I am tempted to tell him that I am not sharing the kit my family brought him and he can go and get a totally new kit bag which would cost him much more than the £20.
Am I being unreasonable in requesting him buy the piece of kit because he claims CB?