Husband doesn't do anything with kids

[Starfish125]

Basically I'm a nurse I work shifts and I always work every Saturday it's just how it goes as childcare is a nightmare to find in the week. The problem is my husband won't do anything with the kids - they are 11, 8 and 15 months old. When I say he doesn't do anything I mean he cares for them gets lunch dinner etc puts baby down for naps but they honestly spend every Saturday doing sod all staying at home and I don't quite know how to broach him about it without him getting defensive? I would do things if it was me, even going to the park but he just CBA. For instance I left him the buggy out today as it's nice weather, I call him at 4pm and he says oh I'm putting the baby down for a nap now....why didn't he take them out after lunch? He says the older two aren't bored as they are on ps5 and the tablet but it really bothers me, AIBU?

This would really bother me, especially if they are on their screens all day. He is just taking the easy option and being lazy. He doesn't need to take them out all day but should at least try and get them out for a couple of hours exercise and fresh air and a break from the screens.

Can you discuss signing your older two up for an activity on Saturday so he has a reason to get up and go out.

Staying at home wouldn't bother me but loads of screen time would and not getting any outside time. Ours love to play at home, and need the downtime after school, but it is a mix of screen stuff and play plus we get them outside even if just in the garden for a bit or a walk

does he work through the week? maybe he's tired?

Nothing wrong with the occasional day at home but every Saturday is too much. Kids need at least an hour of exercise every day. I'd tell him this and ask him how he is going to provide that for his children each Saturday.

He does and he's 'partner' left him at work so he's doing extra early starts, he said this morning when I rang him how shattered he was as baby also got him up early. But when I walked in the house 5 minutes ago they were all throwing balls from the ball pit at each other so I'm wondering if I'm now making a big deal out of nothing as he does engage with them clearly

I don't blame him. I would be exhausted too. And surely an 11 yo doesn't want to just go for a walk in the park or soft play. I think their ages mean they aren't all going to be happy and then it's just exhausting doing 3 different things.

Perhaps his parents left him to his own devices. That definitely used to be the norm for many. Maybe start a conversation around how that's different now?

He is so so lazy

I think you are being ridiculous. He’s looking after the kids while you work. As long as they are fed and happy let him get in with it