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Just Return to Sender

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UnpackingBooksFromBoxes · 22/06/2024 23:28

If you get something delivered and the person it’s addressed to doesn’t live at your address what do you do? I just return to sender every time but people in local facebook groups are always asking if anyone knows Mr/Mrs XYZ as they’ve received something.
Whenever I comment and suggest returning it I’m made out to be unhelpful, but I don’t want some random person’s mail. If they can’t put the right address on that’s on them surely. Interested in other people’s thoughts.
Would you just return it or try and find the addressee?

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Redglitter · 22/06/2024 23:54

If it was a one off I'd try FB. Don't see the harm in it & returning to sender could mean it's long enough before it gets sent out again

larnwme · 23/06/2024 00:29

No I've never tried to locate the addressee. I return to sender if I can be bothered, sometimes it goes in the bin as I cba adding one more task to my list of things to do.

macaroniandcheeze · 23/06/2024 00:36

If it’s got a return address then I’d return to sender.
If it looks like a greetings card or something personal it’s a nice gesture to try to locate the person.

takealettermsjones · 23/06/2024 00:50

If it was a one off I'd try to find the person. In my case I've been receiving mail for the previous owner of my house ever since I moved in... eleven years ago. I dutifully RTS every time (with increasingly rude messages on) but nothing changes. It's incredibly annoying. I don't know what the answer is tbh.

DatingDinosaur · 23/06/2024 01:04

I return to sender.

Apart from the mail from one company who repeatedly sent post for the previous occupant of my house (who had died). In the end I opened one of the letters, rang them and told them that the person was dead and had been for 4 years and could the address be removed from their mailing list.

And then they asked me if I had a forwarding address..

Rightly or wrongly, I gave them the address of the care home in the next town.

CelynMelyn · 23/06/2024 01:43

I’ve lived at my address for over 10 years. I keep receiving letters, from a bank, for the previous owner. Ive returned their mail by stating not known at this address” on the envelope, many times. I’ve been to the bank and told them X no
longer lives at my address. Still the letters keep coming.

Now I shred the letters. I did what I could hoping the letters would be diverted. They haven’t. I can’t do anymore. I have no
ides where the previous owners live.

I’ve decided letters addressed to someone else is not my problem. They can’t be important otherwise the previous owner would have turned up looking for their mail after 10 years. Not my circus, not my monkeys any longer.

SD1978 · 23/06/2024 01:47

I would possibly put out one post on FB- if it's a genuine accident and they come and collect, all good. It's more effort to take it to the post office.

Ginkypig · 23/06/2024 01:56

takealettermsjones · 23/06/2024 00:50

If it was a one off I'd try to find the person. In my case I've been receiving mail for the previous owner of my house ever since I moved in... eleven years ago. I dutifully RTS every time (with increasingly rude messages on) but nothing changes. It's incredibly annoying. I don't know what the answer is tbh.

Stop bothering!

they obviously can’t be bothered to sort it so just shred or keep whatever comes to the house.

they have had ELEVEN YEARS.

my personal rule is return to sender for two years then stop bothering. I feel no matter how busy life is or how slow companies are to sort change of address info two years is almost certainly going to cover it. Then it’s not my problem.

scrapsontheside · 23/06/2024 10:31

Return to sender
Not my job to sort it

mealideas2024 · 23/06/2024 10:43

Mail I return to sender, but greetings cards or presents parcels I try and find the person.

BobbyBiscuits · 23/06/2024 10:51

It depends. One shyster registered his company at my house (easily done, though he's never so much as walked past), so loads of letters were coming for him and we got the fear. Had to fill out loads of shitty forms to prove to companies house that we were legit and this 22 yo Moroccan stranger wasn't!?
So it could be something you need to deal with more than just RTS. I do RTS as well though.

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