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AIBU?

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It's a noisy kids outside one

112 replies

bloodyhellKen22 · 22/06/2024 21:40

It's now past 9:30. It's a warm day and I'm staying at my parents's house with the window in the bedroom open and toddler asleep next door. Kids are outside kicking a ball and screaming at each other. I'm all for playing outside and making noise in the day - go for it and have fun! But after 9pm I feel it's just not on. Maybe I'm just getting older and more miserable but it's really annoyed me tonight. What are your thoughts - AIBU?

OP posts:
Fivebyfive2 · 24/06/2024 07:46

Ha ha I bloody love this - first weekend of decent weather, still broad daylight and MN kicking off about kids being outside in their own street.

Just out of interest, how many posters on here have read or posted outraged/smug comments on either of the 2 massive threads currently running about how awfully fat UK children are and how none of them move around or play outside anymore??

Ginmonkeyagain · 24/06/2024 07:49

Ahh man, we were basically feral in summer as my parents worked long hours farming (harvesting only stops when the light goes).

I have great memories of totally free summer holidays playing out round the village and cycling out in the warm, light evenings.

CandiedPrincess · 24/06/2024 07:52

Nah 9.30pm is hardly late. If it was after 10pm then maybe.

Greenlittecat · 24/06/2024 07:55

They're just playing. I couldn't get worked up about it tbh. Kids need to play.

S0livagant · 24/06/2024 08:00

MissingKitty · 24/06/2024 07:42

You said same privileges, adults doing this would be annoying too. OP was talking about kids playing in their own garden at 9.30 on a sunny day when she didn’t even live there. You stop being ridiculous.

Exactly. Same privileges for both.

It's the adults fault if they don't like the noise as they don't let the kids take themselves to the woods and fields anymore, they only have the street.

Jifmicroliquid · 24/06/2024 08:02

Im not a fan of children but I strangely like the sound of kids playing out in summer. Maybe because it reminds me of my childhood when the neighbourhood sounded like that all summer, whereas now with the weather and technology, not as many kids play out.

cookiebee · 24/06/2024 08:06

The estate I grew up on (council estate not a private country estate manor), it was all concrete paths, walkways, garages, greens dotted about with no ball game signs which we ignored, and the adults let us ignore them, noise from us kids would echo around the place as we played in big groups from morning until the street lamps come on. We were sometimes noisy, sometimes not, adults sometimes would move us on to another part of the estate, tell us to shut the hell up or sometimes just leave us to it. Sometimes they would piss themselves laughing at us, sometimes tell us off. Sometimes the adults would argue with each other and we would stare like dogs looking at a cooked chicken then burst out laughing when they all walked off and slammed their doors!

we would get up to mischief with stuff we found, old shopping trolleys or junk, we would roam around on our bikes, skate boards or roller skates, we were kids, that was life. If one of us got hurt, whichever mother was at home in the flat or house nearest would rush out and scoop us up or we would get given squash by someone else’s mum, the whole feral group of us, if we asked randomly.

Ok so sounds a bit like a council estate Enid Blyton novel, but it’s actually how it was. Obviously as is life, it wasn’t all roses, but I think we are getting more intolerant in some ways as a society, I hope childhoods like this still exist (without all the indoor smoking and no seatbelts in the back of cars with hot plastic seats and full ashtrays 😂), but I doubt it reading Mumsnet!

Kinshipug · 24/06/2024 08:08

Mumsnet - kids are all fat because they're inside all day.
Also mumsnet -how dare children play outside in summertime

Ginmonkeyagain · 24/06/2024 08:22

Also it is a bit unreasonable to expect total silence at 9.30pm on a Summer Saturday evening.

That is an unusually early bed time for a adult, particularly in summer when it is still warm and light.

daffodilandtulip · 24/06/2024 08:27

Children don't play like they used to though. All they seem to do is run around squealing like they're being murdered. They don't play games, explore, make potions. Just squeal.

They go in quite early in our street but they started at 6am both weekend mornings.

mrsDracoMalfoy · 24/06/2024 08:28

Can't win
Inside watching screens - bad
Outside playing when it's still daylight and cooler - bad

🙄

dottiedodah · 24/06/2024 08:42

Well this wouldnt really bother me that much .I hate drilling,banging and chainsaw noise ! Its been quite miserable for June up to now ,surely they can play out in the warm evenings .I would let them enjoy themselves! No I dont have young DC or GC yet .Our NDN are playing footie in the evenings , and making a noise . No worries !

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 24/06/2024 08:45

Oh so they are playing WRONG now?

Maybe it's because they aren't allowed to play outside that they don't know how to play games

They know tag and stuck in the mud and that seems to be it

Probably because if they start enjoying themselves outside, they get told they're too noisy and need to go back in

Fivebyfive2 · 24/06/2024 08:50

daffodilandtulip · 24/06/2024 08:27

Children don't play like they used to though. All they seem to do is run around squealing like they're being murdered. They don't play games, explore, make potions. Just squeal.

They go in quite early in our street but they started at 6am both weekend mornings.

That's funny because all the kids I know (my son and his friends) do those things.

LadyFeatheringt0n · 24/06/2024 08:54

I'd find it annoying after 9pm too op and ive got young kids.

The age where they are noisy like this, its the same age they should be in bed before 9pm.

MissingKitty · 24/06/2024 08:54

daffodilandtulip · 24/06/2024 08:27

Children don't play like they used to though. All they seem to do is run around squealing like they're being murdered. They don't play games, explore, make potions. Just squeal.

They go in quite early in our street but they started at 6am both weekend mornings.

So now kids are playing wrong. And clearly you remember childhood playing noises from the past perfectly and are now observing these children to determine they are playing incorrectly. Gotcha

Nobody likes the pointless screaming amongst the playing that some kids do, and 6am is way too early. But bloody hell there are some miserable buggers on here.

Hellooooy1 · 24/06/2024 08:55

I remember the absolute joy of summer and being out until the street-lamps came on sometimes when my parents would let me.

I think people are intolerant of children having fun and making noise because they were told off for it as kids and it’s an unconscious discomfort!

Let them have their fun, OP. They’ll only be able to do this for a few nights in summer - which isn’t that many nights in their entire childhood really!

LadyFeatheringt0n · 24/06/2024 08:57

All they seem to do is run around squealing like they're being murdered. They don't play games, explore, make potions.

Mine do. There's a bit of shouting and squealing though? Excitement when someone is found, a big cry of delight when the cricket ball is caught, a lot of laughter over silly things.

Mine were squealing this morning because the cat brought a live mouse and its apparently hilarious watching mummy pounce around trying to catch it.

cookiebee · 24/06/2024 08:57

The idea that kids just squeal nowadays is hilarious, kids voices haven’t changed, that squealing people on here are so fond of judging is just their voices, it’s them communicating with each other. In time their voices will break, and instead of squealing (god that bloody judgemental word) they will sit quietly in leather wingback chairs and with their mellow deep voices, they will debate all the boring adult shit that is coming their way and all the fun they apparently shouldn’t be having will be a distant memory! I presume this is more inline with what Mumsnet expects of humans!

HoneyButterPopcorn · 24/06/2024 10:58

Fivebyfive2 · 24/06/2024 07:46

Ha ha I bloody love this - first weekend of decent weather, still broad daylight and MN kicking off about kids being outside in their own street.

Just out of interest, how many posters on here have read or posted outraged/smug comments on either of the 2 massive threads currently running about how awfully fat UK children are and how none of them move around or play outside anymore??

6:30 am on a Sunday morning isn’t a reasonable time for your kids to be screaming in an echoey mews. Trust me.

They scream, throw wooden along the cobblestones, hoot their recorders (because they certainly can’t play them) and just make noise.

The ones next to us are loud kids - yelling, screaming, shouting ‘mommy! She’s being meeeeeeeaaaaan to meeeeeeeeee’…

Greenlittecat · 24/06/2024 11:06

cookiebee · 24/06/2024 08:06

The estate I grew up on (council estate not a private country estate manor), it was all concrete paths, walkways, garages, greens dotted about with no ball game signs which we ignored, and the adults let us ignore them, noise from us kids would echo around the place as we played in big groups from morning until the street lamps come on. We were sometimes noisy, sometimes not, adults sometimes would move us on to another part of the estate, tell us to shut the hell up or sometimes just leave us to it. Sometimes they would piss themselves laughing at us, sometimes tell us off. Sometimes the adults would argue with each other and we would stare like dogs looking at a cooked chicken then burst out laughing when they all walked off and slammed their doors!

we would get up to mischief with stuff we found, old shopping trolleys or junk, we would roam around on our bikes, skate boards or roller skates, we were kids, that was life. If one of us got hurt, whichever mother was at home in the flat or house nearest would rush out and scoop us up or we would get given squash by someone else’s mum, the whole feral group of us, if we asked randomly.

Ok so sounds a bit like a council estate Enid Blyton novel, but it’s actually how it was. Obviously as is life, it wasn’t all roses, but I think we are getting more intolerant in some ways as a society, I hope childhoods like this still exist (without all the indoor smoking and no seatbelts in the back of cars with hot plastic seats and full ashtrays 😂), but I doubt it reading Mumsnet!

Yup totally agree with all of this! Council estate kid here and it was great. People take themselves too seriously these days.

Greenlittecat · 24/06/2024 11:10

HoneyButterPopcorn · 24/06/2024 10:58

6:30 am on a Sunday morning isn’t a reasonable time for your kids to be screaming in an echoey mews. Trust me.

They scream, throw wooden along the cobblestones, hoot their recorders (because they certainly can’t play them) and just make noise.

The ones next to us are loud kids - yelling, screaming, shouting ‘mommy! She’s being meeeeeeeaaaaan to meeeeeeeeee’…

I agree 6:30 am is too early to go un the garden.

However, another poster was moaning because children just squeal and don't play games, your neighbours play skittles and you're complaining about that. They cant win!

Cattery · 24/06/2024 11:16

Kids where I live are all in school atm but I’m just having to listen to some filthy pig snorting then gobbing on the pavement.

KimberleyClark · 24/06/2024 11:16

Wills890 · 23/06/2024 07:04

Well...this is Mumsnet after all. Not sure why people who whinge about not liking children would be here 🤷

Mumsnet is full of people who love their own children but can’t stand other people’s.

Buryyiirwhat · 24/06/2024 11:23

YABU!
All I seem to hear about modern kids is
‘kids these days on on screens too much, don’t go outside as much, are all obese, don’t have the freedom we had…’

yet as soon as they do a normal thing, like play outside on a sunny, bright evening out the whingers come…9.30pm isn’t that late when we have light til 10.30pm in some parts… suck it up, it’ll soon be too dark for them to go out after 5pm…