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Dropped the ball

8 replies

Lovemycat21 · 22/06/2024 18:56

I suffer from depression and have recently had a very close relation pass away. Spoken to my area manager about staff issues in my branch (which have been going on for months but ignored). AM says it's my fault for putting a downer on the place after bereavement because I was probably miserable and in their words, I just need to get on with it. Firstly, issues had been bought to their attention long before the bereavement. Secondly, is it appropriate for management to say I must have dropped the ball a couple of weeks after the person that practically bought me up dies.
I think they were inappropriate and unsupportive. Opinions please

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RadiatorDial · 22/06/2024 19:19

Sorry for your loss @Lovemycat21

YANBU, your AM sounds like a dick, that’s totally inappropriate. Is there anyone else at work you can share this with?

Lovemycat21 · 22/06/2024 19:30

@RadiatorDial thanks for your reply. I probably could take it higher but it could make life at work very uncomfortable. I've been there 12 years but am thinking of looking for another job as the environment has become very toxic since this person was promoted. Not so easy to find something when you're in your 50s though

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Lovemycat21 · 27/06/2024 23:29

Bump

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RadiatorDial · 28/06/2024 22:36

How are you doing @Lovemycat21?

Are you getting the support you need outside of work? Or does your work offer an employee assistance programme/confidential counselling kind of service? The most important thing is making sure you’re ok right now.

Has your AM said anything since their comments in your first post? They’re still an ass BTW and I hope you believe that.

Hopefully some wise MNers will be along shortly to help.x

Lovemycat21 · 01/07/2024 23:38

@RadiatorDial hi I'm doing OK thanks. No she hasn't said anything since, she is avoiding me. If I need to email her about anything at work she gets her assistant to reply. It feels really awkward.

Yes she is a dick lol

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RadiatorDial · 02/07/2024 05:48

@Lovemycat21 she clearly knows she’s in the wrong and potentially opened the company up to liability for a legal claim.

Giving this a bump for you.

Workoutinthepark · 02/07/2024 05:50

Lovemycat21 · 22/06/2024 19:30

@RadiatorDial thanks for your reply. I probably could take it higher but it could make life at work very uncomfortable. I've been there 12 years but am thinking of looking for another job as the environment has become very toxic since this person was promoted. Not so easy to find something when you're in your 50s though

Just wanted to say sorry for your loss and that you were treated horribly. There are people out there who care, and are rightly sympathetic to what you are going through - I'm sorry your awful colleague is not one of them. It does sound toxic. Look after yourself OP.

Zanatdy · 02/07/2024 06:01

Wow that’s absolutely shocking. What a terrible thing to say. I’d look for another job, I wouldn’t want to work for people like that

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