Worn out

[ThatGutsyHedgehog]

I have a EBF 5 month old DS and I’m feeling really tired recently as his sleep hasn’t been great!
My DH is very supportive and 50/50 with parenting but I’m up in the night doing all the feeds. DS won’t take a bottle
Got upset this evening as he’s been at work all week and is going out all day Sunday (long standing arrangement) and now his mother is coming round tomorrow morning and for lunch! Which is my one day with him at home all week
Shes moaning about getting the bus over and wants a lift (can drive choses not to get a car as she wouldn’t use it enough) DH has said no he’s giving me a lie in
I also have tonsillitis!
Just wondering when my break is 😂

In about 18 years? Haha.
No, it’s a tough phase….at some point soon though your baby will start sleeping better and you won’t feel so frazzled. It’s fair enough to feel upset. Can you offload baby to your husband and his mum for a few hours and have some time to yourself?

That was the plan! I thought they were going to go for a walk together with baby and I’d get a break!
Shes now invited herself for lunch after so now I feel pressured to look presentable and the house not be too much of a state!

Can you tell your husband you just need some time to yourself so can he stick to original plan? Or tell you MIL you’ve had a tough week but she’s welcome to come over but hope she doesn’t mind if you excuse yourself as need a bit of downtime?
I think we all put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be presenting that we’re on top of it all especially in the early days with a child. Sometimes it’s ok just to put yourself first. Just annouce you’re happy for them to be there, they can raid the fridge and make themselves welcome, but you actually just need a bit of a chill so off to run a bath.
THe house probably looks fine, you’re just seeing it through stressed eyes

No just stay in bed and ask your DH whatever he is preparing for his and his mum's lunch can he make you up a tray to have in bed.