Limerance, pursue or avoid?

[LimerantStateOfBouyancy]

I've only had it three times in my life, now being the third. I know why it happens, it'll be my ADHD, dopamine chasing and all that jazz.

I cannot stop thinking about this bloke I cross paths with a few times a week 😐 we've exchanged pleasantries and friendly chat but I'm certain he has absolutely no idea. He gives me full blown fanny gallops.

It's basically a crush, but on steroids!

I think if I got it out my system, cough cough, that would help.

He's single.

Should I make my interest known or just avoid him until it passes?

NC because I'd sooner die than post this under my regular username and be recognised.

I'm definitely not looking for a relationship btw.

'fanny gallops' 😂

Yeah gross!

Indeed!

Any regular crushes I've ever had have been on men I find attractive who fit the type of person I look for when/if I'm looking to date.

The few people I've felt like this about are not even my type, on paper or looks.

I’m wondering now - how did this end up?

I’ve had similar feelings!

It’s a form of OCD I think. Possibly a hormonal element to it too. It’s horrible to go through. It’s completely your own thing in your head though. Nothing to do with that specific person at all. It’s a projection of your own wants so worth thinking about that and identifying what you would like to find with a partner and looking out for it. This guy though. You don’t know each other, how can it be anything about him you like?

I pursued it in the end (I had a fuck it moment in November 24 and approached him) and we've been seeing one another since. Daily contact, spending days and nights together, its been a bit of a whirlwind.

I've had a blast for the most part but he turned out to be a complex character, to say the least, and I'm thinking about calling it a day now.

I'm glad I went for it though it was very exciting!

This is me too!

I sometimes think I have limerance or a great crush on someone, it can intense but it always fades in time.
Having said that, if you are both single there's nothing wrong with pursuing it.
Try not to get obsessive or even think of it as limerance.

He might just be the best shag that you have ever had OP.
Even if it only happens once you will be left with a wonderful memory.
Leave nothing to chance, go for it!
😉😁😁.

Thank you for answering my curiosity @LimerantStateOfBouyancy !

That sounds like you had an amazing honeymoon period and some good memories to carry forward.

Better than living with ‘what if?’ by the sound of it!