Would you stay with a cheating man for a good life style?

[Moneysitu]

I didn’t. I left him. No regrets . And I met the love of my life shortly afterwards.

Depends how good the lifestyle is if I'm perfectly honest.

And the way they cheat

To my knowledge, I’ve never been with a cheating partner. However, surely there is a lot more to it than lifestyle? Plenty of parents don’t want to miss alternate birthdays and Christmases with their children or have their child call another woman mum or man dad. Others have no friends, money or education to fall back on.

Also for transparency I have used woman in place of man for my thought experiment

My Mum said when my Dad did the dirty that she might have turned a blind eye if they had been rich and she'd had a better lifestyle. I can kind of see it when you're older but not when you are younger and have the chance of meeting someone else.

Nope. I've been on the bones of my arse, homeless and living in a hostel with a baby at 18 years old. Lived on £20 a week for food after the bills were paid. I'm better off now but not well off. I don't need anything material, I've survived fine without any of it so far.

I don’t think I could personally, but I can see how some couples come to an agreement that involves a kind of stable marriage but also infidelity.

If we're talking bill gates rich where I have my own helicopter, private plastic surgeon and a penthouse in New York I might consider it 😂 other than that - unlikely

Finances (ability to provide well for my child as a single parent) are one of the practical reasons I would find it hard to leave my husband. So in a way, I guess the answer is yes.

If I were in some hypothetical child free relationship with a rich man, then no, I wouldn't trade my self respect for a lifestyle.

The lifestyle I have I feel is entirely reliant on me and my own possessions/ circumstances.
So I wouldn't be with a cheat, and I don't think my choice of partner would affect my lifestyle much.

Well done you. I presume you judge others who have made a difference decision, or been less fortunate?

Sod that. I've always had my own money though, I've never relied on a man. You might as well just become a sex worker, at least you'd be leading an honest life.

Nope

Well yes, if the dh funds a great lifestyle then I would just get a boyfriend for myself. If the dh objected I would laugh in his face.

This ^^
My thoughts exactly.

No, I wouldn’t but as pp have said I can see why some women tolerate it for various reasons depending on the circumstances .

But one thing I could never imagine doing is continuing to have sex with my husband knowing he is sleeping with another woman/women.

Surely it depends on the actual relationship, if I really loved my partner I would be deeply hurt and the relationship would be toxic so I can’t see it working. If you didn’t love them it’s probably easier to turn a blind eye cause you won’t care as much.

But that’s usually not how it works with men like that. They often feel entitled to cheat due to the lifestyle they provide their wife.

They wouldn’t tolerate their wife doing what they are doing, so they’d just break up at that point. Unless it was kept hidden.

Absolutely no way on earth I would sell
myself short for a certain lifestyle. Be self sufficient & don’t leave yourself vulnerable!

No. I moved out of a big house into a bedsit. Can’t put a price on peace of mind

There's staying and there's staying. I wouldn't be invested in the relationship if I stayed and I'd be biding my time, until I had my ducks in a row to leave.

It also depends on my age at the time. If I reached an age where I felt leaving was too difficult, I might stay and effectively live my own life.