Annoyed by sarcastic comment.

[IncognitoUsername]

Have recently given up my job, at DH’s suggestion, due to stress and general unhappiness. Am taking a few months to recover my MH before deciding what to do with the rest of my life.
So I’ve been keeping busy - the house is sparkling, all the chores are up to date, family have had fresh cooked meals every night and I’ve been out several days to volunteer at our Church. I’ve also ferried DS about the place. Yesterday (whilst out running errands) I met a woman who was one of the mums in the class WhatsApp group when DS was at Primary. I don’t know her well and haven’t seen her for ages. She had obviously heard that I was no longer working and in a two minute conversation used the the phrase ‘lady of leisure’ twice, in a really sarcastic way.
It really pissed me off - particularly as it must mean some of the other mums have been gossiping. DH says to ignore it, but it’s really got to me.

This person clearly has jealousy issues or needs to put down others to justify her choice to work or whatever. Honestly? I would try and ignore. Sounds like you’re making a lovely use of the time you’ve got @IncognitoUsername

It’s jealousy, I guarantee it. People who enjoy having a career are too busy enjoying those careers to make snarky comments about what anyone else is doing.

She won’t be thinking that there might be a reason you’ve had to leave work. She’ll only be seeing you living a life that she’d like to live.

Yeah, people judge and gossip.

Most parents who choose to stay at home for whatever reason, for however long eventually feel bad - because people manage to make them feel bad about it.

She's jealous. Don't let it bother you.

I am sorry it came at the expense of your mental health, but enjoy your time at home doing different things and having different priorities. I very much enjoyed it and have never gone back to work full time. It's not everyone's cup of tea, but it worked well for us.

That’s really annoying but rise above it, she’s obviously jealous. Alternatively, next time you see her tell her she looks tired.

Rude fucker. With things like this, I think you have to kill it on the spot. ‘Lady of leisure? You’ve said that twice. There’s lots I do which I’m not sharing.” I appreciate it’s hard when you’re on the spot but I’ve definitely started to speak up at the time more now.

DH said something similar. I think it’s because I have worked since I was 15 so part of me feels bad about not working. However, I went straight back to work when DS was born as DH was studying and money was tight. So this is equivalent to my mat leave, as the studying has enabled DH to get a good job which pays very well.
I’m not sure why I have let this woman get to me, as she means nothing to me. All my actual friends are really pleased for me.

Jealousy makes people very, very ugly. She's so jealous she can't even stop herself from proving just how pathetic she is.

Don't give her another second of your time.