Or am I being over the top? I hope I am.
ex sees ds (2) most weeks for a day. Ex is very self absorbed in the sense that if something is affecting him he doesn’t hide it even if it’s a celebration or other significant occasion for someone to else. If he’s tired or hasn’t slept etc he will be in a mood. He’s 44 so not exactly a 16 and doesn’t know any better!
anyway, I have noticed that he can be very sullen around ds and ds looks confused. Or I will see ds smile at him and ex is looking at ds but clearly thinking about something else and is frowning. Ds then looks sad and confused.
a while we took ds to an appointment and I drove. He got out of the car with ds while I parked into a tight space and I saw him stand holding ds saying absolutely nothing to him, he was just staring into space (it was a day when he was in a mood and stressed about something).
I would never behave like this around ds. Even if my most miserable moments I put on a smile and chat to him. Of course there’s been times when I have had a hard day and not been on great form but with ex this happens at least once every time he’s with ds. I am often with them while sorting out ds etc (he won’t have ds overnight).
so am I being over the top? Am I just too much and too smiley around ds and my expectations of ex are ridiculous?