DH was home much later than expected this evening. He had been to the pub to watch the football where he works.
I text him to ask him if that was what he was doing, when it started to get a bit late - just a “have you nipped to the pub? Do I need to do you some tea?” relaxed text. No reply. These messages haven’t even been read.
text him about 40 minutes later, no reply. He rocks up home an hour after that.
I suspected where he was but my mum actually lives next door to the pub, which is about 20 mins away, so in the end I asked her and she confirmed he’d gone with my brother (they work together) so I was more chilled because at least I knew DH was ok and hadn’t crashed his car or something
when he got in he said he didn’t understand why I was grumpy.
I explained I was just a bit frustrated I’ve been up since 4am, after a bad night sleep with two young kids who were ill in the night. I’ve worked 7-3 before picking the kids up and running errands and then battling bedtime in the longest day of the year. It’s a horrible drive from his work to our home and when he doesn’t reply to my messages I worry something has happened. I asked if he would please just let me know his plans in the future. I don’t care about him going to the pub or whatever, just want a heads up. I’m so fucking tired, the kids are wired in the sunny evenings and the last thing I need is to worry about him in top of that
also the fact that I’m worried and have had to ask my mum where my husband is? It’s embarrassing. It makes us look stupid.
I said basically the crux of it is that I think it’s disrespectful to not check in if plans change from the usual. I always let him know if I’m running late, I’m popping out to do something on the way home etc.
and apparently that’s “overbearing”!?!?
please tell me I’m not crazy and it’s at least common sense to send a courtesy text