In laws

[polaroppositewife]

Just looking for some opinions on if this would annoy anyone else or I am just moody.

I am lucky enough to have a spare/ guest room and additional bedroom that we class as a dressing room where perfume/make up etc is.
My in laws stopped over last week and when MIL came down stairs I smelt perfume I commented that she smelt nice and she just thanked me. However I now realise she had been in dressing room and used my perfume. This in its self isn’t an issue they can use what they want.

However it’s annoyed me that she didn’t ask and why not just say “oh I tried some of yours “ when I commented.

I am likely moody and sensitive but just wanted other options just think it’s quite rude.

It’s not very smart of her is it - given the whole point of scent it to smell and be noticed. Maybe she was a bit embarrassed, having been caught out in snooping? It is rather interesting behaviour….

She's family Id let it go.

Absolutely it’s not something she spends money on

Exactly this! Had she asked I would have said help yourself. Or after she had used it at least acknowledged it. I wouldn’t have been annoyed it’s the lack of manners that’s has annoyed me.

Thank you for all the replies I was worried it was just me, feel better knowing it would have annoyed others too.

Gosh! A squirt of perfume!!!

dont be a miser

For me it would depend on who it was. My
favourite aunt, sister in laws, friends, sister - wouldnt mind at all. But they’d all say, “ooh I nipped into your dressing room and had a quick spray, hope you don’t mind?”
and I genuinely wouldn’t.
My dad however who I only have to stay under absolute duress I would be livid - because I don’t really like him 😂 I mean, he’s not likely to try out my fancy perfumes or lotions and potions but you know what I mean!

It is definitely annoying. But I can relate as my mum used to do it - to me and others. She once did it at a neighbour’s dinner party (to be fair they were very good friends) with the neighbour’s perfume 😱 and would always spritz every perfume going in Boots or H of F.
It was like some weird compulsion but in other respects she was lovely so I mainly used to bite my tongue (or quickly walk away).
It depends if you usually like your MIL or if she has loads of other annoying habits.

Perhaps she just wanted to smell like her wonderful daughter-in-law who is so kind and generous and not the sort at all to broadcast the fact that she’s used a small spray of perfume without asking to a load of strangers on the internet. Hope this helps.

It is the fact that MIL was poking about in rooms other than the one she was staying in that would annoy me. Who does that? Very bad manners.

😂😂This just reminded me of when I was a kid and used someone’s bathroom, I would often have a squirt of perfume and would think no-one would notice!

MIL shouldn't be snooping about in your house and using your stuff.

Well, unless you're OP's MIL or you know the family well, it really doesn't make a great deal of difference if OP post about her MIL, she hasn't named her MIL.

Most posts on MN involve other unnamed people, usually with a negative slant. Do you complain on every thread about OPs posting about people they know?

OP, MIL overstepped the mark. Her behaviour was rude.

So what if it's one squirt of scent, as pps have said? It's really bad manners to go into people's homes, nose around and take what you want without asking.

I don't have much of anything nice, so if someone were to use some of the tiny bit of perfume I have left, which I keep for very special occasions only, then yes, I would be very upset

The perfumes weren't in the guest room, MIL had to go into the dressing room to get the perfume

Except it doesn't. Read post properly before correcting others 😂

Pity she doesn’t have any of her own, I’d be squirting it with wild abandon… Instead, I’d make sure I’d be buying some for her next bday/christmas (not the same one - some chemist special) with a note saying “Since I know how much you enjoyed it from when you stayed at ours”….