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Is this a bad run for parenting?

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findingmoi · 18/06/2024 20:03

I don't know if I'm being unrealistic but we are at our wits end.

This year it's felt like one thing after another parenting wise. We expected our 1 year old to come home from nursery with illnesses in January and February. This was hindered by her stopping sleeping and being sick due to her cough... in her bed, in our bed, anytime anywhere and especially each and every time we attempted to drive anywhere.

She then suffered a bad injury at nursery which saw us in/out of GP and A&E for 2 weeks followed by 3 booked hospital appointments and no sleep for that time.

Sleep has been awful all year in fact, throw in hand foot and mouth, chickenpox, and now we all have Covid and I'm in my 3rd trimester so it's quite worrying.

We've cancelled just about every plan we've had from weddings, milestone birthdays, even a staycation we booked.

We've been in the thick of it for almost 6 months and wondering if this is normal or bad luck. We were supposed to going to a cooking day this weekend to celebrate our anniversary and had childcare lined up but have had to cancel it and not sure if we can rebook in time before baby arrives, and it expires. £250 down the drain along with the rest.

It wasn't always like this, of course newborn life was but this time last year we had an 8 month old, who slept through the night mostly, was not at nursery, no illness, no injury, I was on maternity leave. It was amazing!

Wondering if with two I should just buckle in and accept life is like this now or if this is a bad run?

Feeling fed up and unwell and pregnant and not sure if I'm being unreasonable. I'd just like to make one plan I've made this summer.. I don't get out much at it is. All we do is work full time in survival mode and feel I'm doing a rubbish job at work for that matter too.

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KenIsAnAccessory · 18/06/2024 20:08

Bad-ish run, but within the realms of normal. First year at nursery is hellish. God's speed.

MerryGoSpherical · 18/06/2024 20:08

I think you were very lucky to have had an easy time with an eight month old who slept through, so that was a peak and you're now in a trough!

Nursery illnesses will calm down after a year or so. I'd vaccinated DC2 against chickenpox when you can, avoid as much illness and disruption as you can.

Posithor · 18/06/2024 20:29

I had a 1 and 3 year old who decided the day I went back to work after mat leave was the time to start around 6m worth of back to back Illness. Chicken pox, sickness bugs, coughs, you name it. A relative Petri dish of viral infections. Oh and a memorable trip to a&e after the small hooligan ate a Christmas tree bauble...which resulted in every one getting covid. It felt never ending. It did get better though. Made it through. Almost in tact twitch
Hope it gets better for you soon x

stayathomer · 18/06/2024 20:32

I’m so sorry to tell you we missed a llooooottttt of things over the years, weddings, birthdays etc, there’s times it would feel like a curse! One year, like you- bug, then chicken pox, chest infections- it was like a horror movie. It gets much easier as they get older (in that way!) Hope you get better soon x

Sunnysummer24 · 18/06/2024 20:34

Sounds fairly normal. Keep an eye on the cough. My DD had that, vomiting every night she had a cold, turns out she has cough variant asthma.

Fudgetheparrot · 18/06/2024 21:03

Definitely a bad run imo, my DD was relentlessly sick when she started nursery but all normal stuff (tummy bugs, ear infections), no hospital visits

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