I met a friend 3yrs ago at our children’s school. We instantly got on well and became good friends, or so I thought. She constantly blows hot and cold on me, going from one extreme to the other. One minute she will text me throughout the day, we hang out all the time both with and without our children, then out of nowhere she will abruptly disappear for a couple of months, I literally don’t hear a word from her, she doesn’t reply to messages, gets her mum or husband to do the school run, it’s so weird. The first few times this happened I thought I had done something to offend her, because she literally just stopped replying to any messages I sent her, only for her to gaily pop up and say oh sorry been a bit busy doing nothing 😂 (she doesn’t work, her husband works from home and is incredibly hands on, her mum lives 5mins away and also very helpful) I’ve wondered if somethings happened but no, nothing. She’s just super unreliable. I’ve just kind of accepted it as how she is but I’m really pissed off that it was my birthday recently and she made a fuss of saying she was coming round with a gift, wants to wish me a happy birthday on my birthday…..a month later radio silence, not heard from her since.
There’s been lots of times she’s been a lovely friend to me, but so many times she’s let me down or just disappeared. I find this annoying and a sign maybe we aren’t as good friends as I thought?