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to go NC over suggested trip to Tesco?

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BrendaDoesntBounce · 18/06/2024 13:32

Background, my family are a toxic cesspit who I try to have as little contact with as possible. But they are still my family and cutting ties all together is hard.

5 months ago I had a serious accident. Broke my elbow, badly injured my hip, and completely exploded my shoulder. I had reconstructive surgery on my shoulder and have had my arm and shoulder immobilsed ever since. I've developed CRPS and the healing process has been very, very slow.

Last week my consultant finally said the bones have healed enough to move again. So now I begin 12 to 18 months of physiotherapy to get the use of my arm back.

I posted a selfie of myself on Facebook posing with thumbs up and without the immobiliser sling saying I'm finally allowed to move again.

Yesterday my mother rings me as she wants a lift to Tesco. I was gobsmacked. I've been to hell and back the last 5 months and she hasn't contacted me once. Zero interest from her. I tell her I can't drive yet. I really can't. I can't extend my arm or lift it. She accused me of being selfish and lying as she'd seen my FB post. I explained that being allowed to move it doesn't mean I'm able to move it. Then she hung up on me.

So now I've got messages from my siblings calling me out on my selfishness.

I'm done with the lot of them. Friends, neighbours, DH's family, work colleagues, even complete strangers have lifted my up and carried me through this (literally in the case of complete strangers) and my family haven't given a shit.

AIBU to use this as the kick up the arse I need to finally block the whole bloody lot of them.

OP posts:
AGodawfulsmallaffair · 18/06/2024 13:35

Oh God yes, block them all. What a shite mother. Hope your recovery continues well.

LittleRebelGirl · 18/06/2024 13:35

Omg. The only unreasonable thing would be to NOT block them.
Get them gone. Selfish cunts.

AlisonDonut · 18/06/2024 13:36

Wow. No please do block, what a bunch of utterly despicable bastards.

BuggeryBumFlaps · 18/06/2024 13:36

Block and go complete no contact. What a vile bunch of individuals.

ThisKookyBlueSnake · 18/06/2024 13:39

They should get off their backsides and take your mother shopping.

Katypp · 18/06/2024 13:39

Normally I am very critical when people go NC but it's difficult to see what your family are bringing to your life
I would just block and ignore

BrendaDoesntBounce · 18/06/2024 13:43

ThisKookyBlueSnake · 18/06/2024 13:39

They should get off their backsides and take your mother shopping.

My brother usually does as he lives with her. But he's away at the football.

OP posts:
BrendaDoesntBounce · 18/06/2024 13:56

I'm actually feeling quite tearful right now thinking of the kindness of others. Some of it is very blurry. I remember lying on the ground and a member of the public holding my hand and someone else gently stroking my forehead and saying over and over that help was on the way and everything was going to be ok. Even though I was in agony, they made me feel safe.

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SeulementUneFois · 18/06/2024 19:07

OP
Your family are absolute cunts.
Block them.
(I would also get someone else like your DH to ring your mum and siblings and bollock them so they see you have support and leave you alone.)

Gakpo · 18/06/2024 19:35

Just block.

What are they actually bringing to your life?

Fuck ‘em, to put it bluntly.

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