To think it's weird that my ex doesn't see his kids on fathers day?

[Blubbafish]

Just that really... this year and last he hasn't bothered with them. Last year he played sport, not sure about this year. He has regular contact with them, so it feels bizarre to me that he wouldn't want to see them.

I'm just wondering if it's common or maybe not as big of a deal as it is in my head to most people?

He's a crap father. He hasn't bothered to see his children. He doesn't deserve to be called a dad.

Well, if it was t a day he would usually have them, and he’s an involved and adequate co-parent, it wouldn’t strike me as at all odd…?

my son’s dad has never seen him on father’s day. He’s 4 now. I offer every year but he says he’s working.
we send a video and a card but this year my son understands more and wanted to see him.

Is he a good father in other ways?
Lots of people, including me, just see these days as commercial rubbish designed to make us spend money on a certain day.

These days are sometimes just not that important to some people ,i remember birthdays ,but i completely forgot about fathers day this year

It doesn't mean he's a crap father.

Some people just aren't bothered about Hallmark holidays. I'm one of them. It doesn't make me a bad parent, it just makes me someone that doesn't a) like that kind of fuss and b) like the whole buying tat because we are supposed to bullshit

Nothing like jumping to conclusions based on one little thing.

Was it his contact day?

Maybe he doesn't care about Father's Day? If I was separated and Mother's Day fell on a day when I wasn't due to have my children because they were with their father, I wouldn't see them.

Neither of you is being unreasonable - most men couldn't care less about father's day. If mothers and daughters didn't bother with it, the practice would quietly die out.

Doesn't seem a big deal to me. I'm not bothered about Mother's Day. If something came up on it any year so I was away or something I wouldn't think about it.

Rather the other way, if it wasn't his day with them anyway and he was trying to engineer seeing them I'd think he was being a bit precious.

Would it also depend on what the DC want?

You really felt the need to write all this @RefusingToPlayYourGames after one tiny insight from the OP? 😅

My DSC mum didn’t want them on Mother’s Day for years. She never said why. Flexible contact schedule and DH always offered.