I need help as I do not know how to approach the situation in the long term or short term. Due to my past experiences sometimes I think I am too naïve or too judgmental when I make decisions in my life.
Unfortunately, I am unable to speak with my side of my family because they are not that interested in my life or able to provide any nurturing words, have a conversation, share their thoughts with me.
My husband's brother's wife has been silently bullying me for sometime now.
Please correct me if you have a different opinion on silent bullying as I might be wrong. Other family members have noticed too, but nobody said anything directly to her. They just were sorry that I get treated this way. My husband did not say anything to her either.
The things she did were excluding me deliberately from activities, mocking whatever I say, never making eye contact with me or any indications she acknowledges of my existence. Sending my husband messages to wish him Merry Xmas or Easter.
I do not expect them to say anything to her and since they have a positive experience with her, I am happy for them.
The thing is that she treats my husband fine and nice with no issues, but she has been doing this to me. My husband spoke with his brother but obviously, he cannot change his wife's behavior, so she carried on doing the same. Neither of them apologized to me nor did my BIL apologize to me about his wife's behavior - which is fine, hurtful but fine, whatever.
My husband thinks the most sensible thing would be that he just goes out and sees his brother and he does not see his brother's wife. And I am fine with this. I have nothing against this. But I have to admit that it's extremely hurtful.
I would like to ask if you have ever been bullied in any sort of way or from by a family member and how did you approach and handle the situation ?