Would you think WTF if ….

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You saw a post on Facebook from an acquaintance that she has asked all of her friends to be bridesmaids despite only getting engaged last week? (From her posts I can see absolutely no date is set, no venue etc. she has said she and fiancé won’t even know how to afford one with COL)

You know those bridesmaid boxes with candles wax melts little bottles of fizz type things?

Is this the new norm? And to put it all on Facebook? I’ve been engaged a while (probably 2027 wedding) but have not chosen my bridesmaids.

Each to their own 🤷‍♀️

It doesn't matter does it? She's probably just excited.

We got engaged on holiday and as soon as I got home I rang each of my bridesmaids to ask them. At that point we had no idea when or where we were getting married- but why would that matter? I wanted my closest friends to be bridesmaids and that wouldn't change no matter what the wedding plans

I'd say it's no weirder than being engaged but with no plans to get married till 2027. Presumably she intends to get married sooner

I knew who my bridesmaids would be before I got engaged.

I think it's more unreasonable not to know who you want as bridesmaids and ask them when you announce your engagement and not planning the wedding for over 3 years.

i don't think you're in a place to criticise anyone

I think your a little bit jealous

I always knew who my bridesmaids would be ,,🤷‍♀️.Not sure they are up for the sequel 😜.

Well... the women I wanted as bridesmaids were people I knew would want to do it, whether in 6 months or 18. I wouldn't be giving them the date first and asking if they're free!

I know who my bridesmaids would be and I haven't been in a relationship for over a decade. Surely you know who the most significant females are in your life.

Me too, I think a lot of women do.

Same. Impatiently waiting for a ring 😅

I got sent a box from my sister in a different country (diff continent) a couple of years ago. Pic of me and her and all the bits inside. This was about 4 years ago. Shes still not married and I couldnt even tell you the last time we spoke. It turns out it was all for social media - hers not mine cos I did not post anything about it.

Everyone does things differently

I would just think she was very excited. Why does it bother you so much. Guessing you didn't get asked?

It's just different from your preferred approach. Nothing wrong with it at all.

I’d think it’s more weird to be engaged for a while with no active plans to be married and a maybe 2027 wedding tbh.

I wouldn't think WTF but I'd think it was a bit pointless making detailed plans until a date was set because you couldn't be sure of your friends' availability. If it's a fairly short engagement, they might have other plans they can't change. If it's a long/indefinite engagement, anything might happen before the wedding takes place.

No I wouldn’t think WTF. Since when do you have to find a venue before choosing bridesmaids?

This! Waiting three years to get married is way weirder 😆

I think a 'maybe 2027' wedding is just as strange. I was married within three months of getting engaged, which is probably a bit extreme in the other way (and no, I wasn't pregnant!)

This really. She’s jumped in with both feet to the organising - you might get round to it in 2027 - both a bit batshit to me! But each to their own…

2027?! I think both your Facebook acquaintance and you are unreasonable.

Then again, I'm from a country where there is usually 2-6 months between engagement and wedding. It's good - no one gets upset if people are unable to make it!