My children made Father’s Day cards in school. I have 2 children in the same class, year 2, and between them they decided that one of them would make a card for their dad and one would make a card for their stepdad (my DH)
They’ve been with their dad this weekend but for whatever reason didn’t give their dad the card until this morning. He absolutely flipped on them for giving a card to their step dad. Made comments like “how will you like it if I give your birthday presents to a random child on the street” and “he is nothing to you” referring to their step dad. My son said his dad was shouting so loudly that it sounded like his voice cracked and he was shaking with anger. For full disclosure I’ve had a post before about their dad going mad because the children refer to my husband as being their step dad. I’ve named changed for this thread as I’ve spoken to school about this today as well as friends and family. He also started yelling at me on my doorstep for “allowing” this and in the end I shut the door on him as my children were all distraught. We were half an hour late for school so I could calm them down and reassure them.
I’ve never forced or even encouraged the children to see my husband as a father figure. This is something they’ve decided on their own and they all have a good relationship. It is also normal in our family to celebrate all mums on Mother’s Day, they will make cards for their aunties, grandmothers, etc.
I feel strongly that their father is being unreasonable here and to be honest I’m not sure what my next steps should be. I just wanted the opinions of a wider audience who aren’t connected to me. The cards had been made with no input from me so their dad either got one card from both or them or no card at all and I thought he would like the card his child had made.