To wonder who are all these LTB, poor step children posters?

[SuzTruss]

As the title says. There is always almost comical flood of LTB comments in many threads as well as is a step mother step children scenario never a possibility that maybe the mum of the step children is being a bit difficult.

Who are the people who always have such strong views as; I would never be with such man, would never tolerate that, red flag red flag, etc..

I don't always say LTB but I do where deserved. Because I did LTB myself and know how freeing it is!

Ypu have to realise that some people live in a bubble whereby they only experience certain types of behaviour.
For example their parent(s) were abusive. They fell into a relationship which is abusive. Their siblings are in abusive relationships and the relationships they have experience of are not good ones.
They don’t know that ‘better’ exists. Sometimes it’s helpful for others to let them know this.
Obviously everyone has their own tolerance and boundary levels.

I think some (obviously not all) Mumsnetters post a 'learned MN response' a lot of the time, without even thinking it through.

Like a seal slapping away at a keypad.

Thinking what other repetitive themes we see… There is also plenty of men who don’t pull their weight once kids arrive and posters saying how they couldn’t be with such a man as if it was that simple at that stage…. Or posters saying how their husbands are pulling their weight and they couldn’t be with such a man…

He’s lots if people can’t see outside of their bubble.
An example is telling posters to take in ironing to earn lots of cash. Or telling them that they must have someone who can step in and babysit. Surely everyone can just leave their dcs with the grandparents for days in end. 🤨

It's not about abuse though. I've posted here and got many LTBs, counselling won't work, go on your own - despite having children. This was for an issue that was resolved through a few conversations.

As much as it's appreciated to have people see your POV, the replies are sometimes so extreme.

One wonders if any how many people ended up going down a spiral making a big thing out of not much.

Although there are stories where people said MN helped them to see things for what they really are.

I think that's quite possible I have seen threads were the Op has posted something and is clearly pissed ,off but other posters wind the Op up and make the situation ten times worse.

I think it's women trying to help other women not accept their husbands or partners not pulling their weight or not being an equal partner and father. Most women enter relationships marriage and children expecting not to have to shoulder most of life's drudgery and burdens and that the person they are sharing it with is a competent adult but thread after thread here shows that this is often not the case once marriage and children arrive. New mothers taking on the majority of tasks while on maternity leave and this becoming the status quo when she returns to work.
If ending a marriage was made easier and there was less stigma still attached to being a single mother I would hazard a guess that most of these less than adequate men would be put back on the shelf.

I think it's women trying to help other women not accept their husbands or partners not pulling their weight or not being an equal partner and father.

Interesting way to put it. Is it always really help, though? Or as mentioned above, is it stemming from living in a bubble?

Or maybe with divorce running at about 50% and a lot of miserably incompetent men out there, it is just statistically likely that a lot of the things posted about are really that bad?