We have two kids, 4 and 2.
H works very hard, long days. So he doesn't really see the kids during the week, as he leaves while they're still sleeping and they're also asleep when he comes back from work.
He sees them Saturday and Sunday, but is constantly trying to escape from us.
Case in point today, Father's Day. We went out for lunch, where he just seemed annoyed the entire time. He's just always grumpy.
He's not mean to them or shouty, thankfully, but he just doesn't seem to be having fun at all. Everything is quick. He wants to leave immediately. He never wants to do things, just for them. Like take them to the playground. I have to beg to take them together. He usually doesn't want to and if we do go, he wants to leave very quickly. Then he retreats. His only hobby at the moment is mowing the lawn. He enjoys that and will spend a few hours doing that, most weekends. I often take the kids out without him, hoping he'll be less grumpy after he's had a break from us. But it never works.
I just want him to be happier to be around us. He doesn't go out and drink or anything like that. He just works and comes home. While at home he just retreats and watches TV alone etc.
I get it, he needs a break. Or he needs something else, a hobby. Something to make him less miserable around us. How can I get him to do something or to just not be as moody ?!
It makes him so unattractive to me. If he's depressed, he refuses to acknowledge it or do anything about it. He doesn't like his work, but can't change it.